Dear Bro Jo,
My mother is just recently getting back into the dating game and last week she had a dinner date that started at 5:30. The guy she was with said he was not hungry and only ordered dessert, lied to her about when his divorce was final (he said it was final in November, that is when it was filed.) and said he felt like they knew each other in heaven.
I thought all of this was rather odd, what about you?
Sincerely, Anon
Dear Anon,
He may be weird. He may be an intentional liar. He may have just been nervous or trying to impress your mom.
For now just give her some space and some support. Don't be too quick to be too judgmental.
Everything you ever felt, dealt with, or stressed out about when you were dating is now a part of her life.
Except that it's harder for her than it is for you. You had her for guidance. She's on her own, blazing new territory, and I bet she's terrified.
So be kind. And understand that her choices will be tempered with experience and an understanding of eternal things that you don't know yet.
If in her loneliness she picks a real loser, then by all means speak up before it's too late. But for now give her the benefit of the doubt and room to go on a few bad dates. Remind her that she's a great catch, and there's more than just one guy out there willing to date her.
- Bro Jo
Accept, not Except. :)
ReplyDeleteIf I was telling the writer to acknowledge that this is difficult for her mother, then you would be correct.
ReplyDeleteHowever, in this instance I'm telling the writer that in addiction to everything she's ever felt, its even harder for her mother, so "except" is correct.
Thanks for keeping me on my toes!
- Bro Jo