Is There Such a Thing as Kissing Your Fiance Too Much?

Dear Bro Jo,

Hi there,

So, I've read your notes on passionate kissing, and I still feel kind of in the dark.

I'm currently engaged and up ‘til recently had never made-out or anything of the like.

I don't mean to try to push the limits, I just want to know, because I find this to be hard to gauge.

(And it's not as if this topic gets covered anywhere.)

At what point does a kiss become Too Passionate in your opinion?

I realize that you shouldn't pet or neck or the like, and I haven't, but does a kiss go too far if it causes a small ejaculation?

For guys, you know what happens when you're kissing, so when do you think it gets out of control?

Thanks for your help,

- Confused




Dear Confused,

I think there's too much kissing going on, or it's Too Passionate, when there's the slightest possibility of one's Temple Worthiness being jeopardized.

Does that make sense?

As you know, I don't have a problem with committed couples kissing, but I do profess the Dr. Seuss Guidelines:

Not in a room
Not in a car
Don't get too close
Don't go too far

Not on a couch
Not in the dark
Or alone in a house
Or in the park


Or, if you prefer, take advice from Enchanted:

That's what brings ever-aftering (so happy)
That's the reason we need lips so much
For lips are the only things that touch
So to spend a life of endless bliss
Just find who you love through true love's kiss



On a related note, I believe in very short engagements, and I think that once a couple is engaged they should spend very little time alone together because Satan hates Eternal Marriages and will make situations as tempting as possible so that they won't happen.

Once a couple is sealed, there's not much they can do in the ol' make-out department that will harm their Temple Recommend holder status.

And, while you didn't ask specifically, what's happening as a . . . byproduct . . . of your kissing in and of itself is not a bad thing.  Kissing is often a . . . warm up . . . to sex, and your body is responding the way it's designed to, so that's not bad in-and-of-itself . . . but what we're supposed to save for after marriage can be very tempting before marriage, especially if the engine is running, so it's best to cool things off.  For now.

Be sure to keep your hands off each other's parts and keep your parts off of each other and keep your parts safely clothed. That will help. And then, after you're married and you gain more . . . experience . . . in intimate stuff, this won't be happening with this low level of stimulus anymore.

At least it shouldn't.

If it never gets better, if you find that after marriage and more experience you consistently can't have sex because you're too excited too soon, you can and should talk to a doctor.

But let's worry about that later.  After you're married.

- Bro Jo