Heads and Shoulders

Dear Bro Jo,

Hi Bro Jo!

So I'm having some issues with this boy I like and I don't know what to do...

First, I'll give you a little background. I'm 18 and a senior in high school, he's 17 and a junior in my stake. I've had a bit of a crush on him for quite some time, but not until a few months ago did we actually ever see each other outside of Church activities.

He invited me to Church Prom with him, and I invited him to my school prom.

They were great!

It really seems like he likes me and I like him too, but I just don't know what to do.

I'm heading off to college at BYU this fall and he will still be back here in high school, but will probably end up going to BYU the year after.

I know that I should just move on and not worry about it, but that's a lot easier said than done.

I can't stop thinking about him and how well we get along, etc.

I know I should just get over the crush, but other than the slight age difference I don't really see any good reason to.

How do you get over someone when they haven't done anything to give you reason to not like them?

Also, I've been wondering....so after both proms on the ride home I like fell asleep on his shoulder. It seems pretty innocent to me but I just wanted another opinion about it.

Finally, should I ever tell this boy how I really feel before I go to college?

I think he probably can tell I like him, and my friend told me that he likes me...it just seems like a big elephant in the room at this point.

Even though I can't and shouldn't expect anything to come out of it, I still feel like he should know how I feel.

But I don't know if this will just make things more complicated for both of us.

Sorry if I rambled, I'm just so confused about what I'm feeling.

- Conflicted




Dear Conflicted,

No one says you have to "get over" your crush.

Enjoy it!

Write about it in your journal.

Have fun!

I don't see anything too wrong with you falling asleep on his should on the ride home, especially if other people were in the car and the car wasn't "parking".

Don't make it a habit, or take it any further, and don't put yourself in situations where even though you may be asleep, someone else's hands can wander.

And, no, you shouldn't tell him you like him before you go to college. 

There's no point and no advantage.

Enjoy these moments, but keep it casual.

Give him the freedom to date other girls while you're away at school and you go on all the Serious Single Dates (with non-creeper-stalker boys) that you get asked out on.

- Bro Jo