Aloha Bro Jo!
I hope you will have some insight on my predicament…
I have been dating an RM for the past five months and I'll be completely honest I've fallen head over heals for him.
The only problem is that we're at two different stages in our lives: he is 26 and graduated and currently working and I just recently turned 20 and am currently still attending college.
We absolutely love spending all the time we can together when I come home from school on the weekends and I wouldn't want to be with anyone else.
The only problem is that not only he but also my parents hate the age difference.
I try to over look it since it is only 6 years…
Should I worry?
And is it going to get harder since we are at two different places in our lives?
Or am I over thinking the whole situation?
Help??
Mahalo,
- Confused College Girl
Dear College,
I'm sorry, I just don't see any problem with him being 26 and you 20,
or him being out of college and you still working on your education.
Couples, regardless of age, are often "at different places in their
lives"; that's much less important than how you deal with those types
of things.
At your age 26 is not too old, nor at his age is 20 too young.
And in college or out, we should all always be trying to learn new things.
He me iki ia.
Ke Akua pu a hui hou,
- Bro Jo
Maybe it would seem easier to envision these 20 and 26 together when put side by side with two other situations which I've come up against in the past (because everyone freaks out over this stuff when it's more normal, yet strange things still happen): girl 19, guy 25; or girl 22, guy 36. Compared to a lot of the options, this one is great!
ReplyDeleteOver the years the "Age Difference" issue has come up quite a few times.
ReplyDeleteHere's a link to the previous posts:
http://dearbrojo.blogspot.com/search/label/age%20differences
- Bro Jo