Should She Feel Guilty Going Out with a Guy that Just Broke Off a Year-long Relationship?

Dear Bro Jo,

Who would have thought I would still be emailing you at 20!

haha! Not me!

Anyway, my dilemma is I met a guy this weekend and he's soo sweet and all that jazz and we've spoken a lot this weekend!

The problem is just broke up with his girlfriend about a month ago; it's still a bit sore for her and she's still upset but it's definitely over and they won't get back together.  So I know the guys ex-girlfriend, not very well but I know who she is and she'll know who I am because we were in the same EFY group (as counselors).

I've been thinking this morning "do I stop talking to this guy and leave it a while to settle or do I just carry on speaking to him?"

We've been talking about going out sometime this week on a date which is cool but I don't know if I want to get caught up in it?

They were together for a year so it's not like it was a little fling.  I've never really dated somebody who's got that hanging over them.  What should I do?!

Thanks,

Name Withheld




Dear NW,

Of course you keep talking to him!

And . . . worry less.

Yes, I think she'll hurt when she realizes he's moved on and is dating other people, but that's what happens after a break up.  Honestly?  I think finding out about his other dates will help her move on (not that you should be the one to tell her).

Have fun,

- Bro Jo