tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post2229141872592784950..comments2024-03-23T19:56:39.134-06:00Comments on Dear Bro Jo . . . : A Conversation About Serious Single DatingBro Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-73822814328727329822012-07-21T01:12:15.864-06:002012-07-21T01:12:15.864-06:00"To be feminine is to embrace the feminine, n..."To be feminine is to embrace the feminine, not to try and make it masculine."<br /><br />I think I've found my new favorite quote!Cali Galnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-89960662723697261702012-07-10T08:00:08.778-06:002012-07-10T08:00:08.778-06:00@ Miranda -
You need to take that chip off your...@ Miranda - <br /><br />You need to take that chip off your shoulder so you can see more clearly.<br /><br />What I've said is that Guys see Women who do the asking as "desperate and easy", and let's face it . . . it's true.<br /><br />I've also said that women typically hold all the cards and all of the power; that's hardly the point of view of being "acted upon".<br /><br />And I've never said that women should wait around helplessly.<br /><br />You can try to twist and spin any of my words you want, but the record stands, and I stand by it.<br /><br />No one agrees with everything I write, and that's a very good thing as far as I'm concerned; but I don't write things I don't think are true.<br /><br />And that includes this: you can ask out all the guys you want, but you'll be making a mistake AND (this is the most important lesson for you to learn) when you do that you'll be giving away much of the power that you should have, that I advocate you deserve and should use, and that you seem to value so highly.<br /><br />To be feminine is to embrace the feminine, not to try and make it masculine.<br /><br />- Bro JoBro Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-27825230564261189512012-07-09T18:39:40.813-06:002012-07-09T18:39:40.813-06:00I'm still taking issue with calling women who ...I'm still taking issue with calling women who ask men out "easy" and saying that they don't value themselves. What really makes women not value themselves is the perspective that they cannot act, only be acted upon. Advice telling women to wait for the men to ask them out is perpetuating that view.Mirandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12006359759835504429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-65566609542621193922012-07-09T14:59:12.815-06:002012-07-09T14:59:12.815-06:00@ Miranda -
There's a WORLD of difference.
A...@ Miranda -<br /><br />There's a WORLD of difference.<br /><br />Asking a guy out is allowing him to be lazy.<br /><br />Telling him he should ask you out is telling him that you're worth making an effort for.<br /><br />This is not an issue of me not wanting to be chased by a woman (married, remember?), nor is it an issue of me labeling women one thing or another, but rather me educating you sisters on what guys think about women (yes, in general terms) when girls do the asking.<br /><br />And you should know, I generalize LOTS of stuff - it's required by the nature of what I do. In order for me to be specific and personal I'd have to know people way better than an a couple emails can provide. (It's a free entertainment column, nothing more than my opinions, however educated they may be, I'm not a paid psychologist.)<br /><br />And, really, if you're going to pick up on anything I wrote as "rude", don't you think " tell your roommates for me to stop enabling the pathetic losers" is far more invective?<br /><br />;)<br /><br />- Bro JoBro Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-60502796755116877362012-07-09T13:11:28.670-06:002012-07-09T13:11:28.670-06:00What's the difference between asking a guy out...What's the difference between asking a guy out and asking him to ask you out? I think it's quite rude to say that all women who ask men on dates are desperate or "easy." People have different personalities, and just because you personally would not like to be asked out doesn't mean you can generalize that to the entire population.Mirandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12006359759835504429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-74585805221765967512012-07-05T20:39:43.691-06:002012-07-05T20:39:43.691-06:00Just because something works, that doesn't mea...Just because something works, that doesn't mean it's the best idea.<br /><br />After all, in your case she could have apologized, been sweet, and asked you to ask her out.<br /><br />Being the good guy you are, you'd no doubt have made the right decision.<br /><br />- Bro JoBro Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-89051083500633816212012-07-02T18:19:28.334-06:002012-07-02T18:19:28.334-06:00Just because I'm endlessly difficult let me sa...Just because I'm endlessly difficult let me say that occasionally there is a good cause for a woman to ask a man out on a date. For example, when I moved into a new ward I met a woman who was more rude to me than anyone I had previously met. I had no interest in her. After several months her veneer began to drop, but first impressions are tough to break and I had zero interest. So she asked me out. I agreed, and changed my mind entirely. I asked her out again.Christopher Cunninghamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11886330185703159799noreply@blogger.com