tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post3374278995959187439..comments2024-03-23T19:56:39.134-06:00Comments on Dear Bro Jo . . . : Is It the Age Difference That's Scary Here?Bro Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-89369594514399763692013-02-06T22:20:14.196-07:002013-02-06T22:20:14.196-07:00Listen to you two!
Both arguing and agreeing at t...Listen to you two!<br /><br />Both arguing and agreeing at the same time.<br /><br />Here's the key, and you can tell all of your frustrated whinny friends:<br /><br />STOP HANGING OUT!!!!<br /><br />Stop treating each other like "pals"; stop "Friend Zoning" each other; and listen when you're told that Guys Can't Stay Just Friends with Girls.<br /><br />Sheesh!<br /><br />I love y'all, but you have no one to blame but yourselves.<br /><br />(That's remarkably unattractive, by the way . . . that whinny blame the other side stuff . . . just thought you should know.)<br /><br />Build a bridge.<br /><br />- Bro JoBro Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-16912990264164768052013-02-06T07:47:31.502-07:002013-02-06T07:47:31.502-07:00I'm the 1st anonymous commentator responding t...I'm the 1st anonymous commentator responding to the girl that just responded to my post.<br /><br />For every one case like yours, there are thousands of cases in which that doesn't happen: the girl goes into a date already not interested in a guy (not indifferent...totally not interested), fishes for more reasons to not be interested, and then after the date she acts weird towards him and labels him "a creeper" after any type of communication or approach that he tries to make. Your one example is good but it's a rare exception. There are hundreds of pity dates at BYU/UVU where the girl feels way disinterested before the date even happens, and rarely will the girl change her mind and have some sort of interest after that. She'll let silly reasons take over and won't give the guy a real chance because of that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-50718373171523088032013-02-05T22:41:08.133-07:002013-02-05T22:41:08.133-07:00To the first anonymous comment... Are you kidding?...To the first anonymous comment... Are you kidding? I went on a date with a guy that I wasn't interesting in, and now I am totally into him! In fact, I dated him twice before I liked him.<br />And she didn't ignore him before, she was just busy! I think that you are taking this post way too personally. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-79070797033187418752013-02-05T09:52:01.959-07:002013-02-05T09:52:01.959-07:00Another thing: besides blowing things out of propo...Another thing: besides blowing things out of proportion, girls make things get out of hand by simply ignoring a guy. It's like they want to pretend that nothing is happening or that they want the guy to think that the girl no longer exists. Girls, learn to confront situations instead of hiding and spreading rumors about a guy that we don't know and who might be a good person if we knew more about him than what you talk about. If you want guys to "take risks" by putting a greater effort into pursuing girls, then you should also put the effort into learning to solve problems head on. It'll make everyone's lives easier.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-70203712114390391072013-02-05T09:46:55.138-07:002013-02-05T09:46:55.138-07:00He probably does it out of frustration and maybe t...He probably does it out of frustration and maybe tries some sort of dry humor with those texts, but it's just hard to determine emotion through texts. He likely wouldn't have done that if she didn't ignore him so much. She should just tell him she doesn't want to date him without sugarcoating any sort of friendship. Girls bring these situations on themselves. Again, if she wasn't so creeped out making a big deal out of his age then this likely wouldn't have happened.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-38878103889367879222013-02-05T07:45:15.354-07:002013-02-05T07:45:15.354-07:00The guy sounds TOTALLY immature. Sending "mo...The guy sounds TOTALLY immature. Sending "moo cow"? Really? What the heck does that mean? Just because a boy/man is older does not mean he is mature and when he sends random texts of "you hate me" I think that is a HUGE warning sign. I would definitely stay far away.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-80151699130416400172013-02-04T21:22:47.961-07:002013-02-04T21:22:47.961-07:00This girl is making a bigger fuss about it because...This girl is making a bigger fuss about it because of his age. She made a big deal out of it, she likely thought about that during the date, she psyched herself out with it and didn't let that go before, during, or after the date. Everything else that she's done here is based off that one factor about the age difference and this may not have been such an awkward situation if it were a guy whose age didn't scare her. He's not a monster haha he's just a guy, but from the get-go the girl was thinking about potential "creepy vibes", which she says she didn't find at first.<br /><br />Guys get frustrated with many girls because girls will go on one date and then they turn extremely awkward and scared towards the guy after that. It seems that girls who aren't interested in a guy before a date will fish for reasons to not go our with him again during that date. Rarely have I heard of a recent case in which a girl didn't like a guy before a date, but went out with him anyway and then ended up liking him. This is a major problem because it seems that a large percentage of girls go into a date already not interested in a guy. Girls, stop "fishing for silly reasons to not like a guy" when you first meet them or are asked on a date. Otherwise you really AREN'T giving him "a chance" even if you go on a date with him. A date isn't a chance when a girl goes in with the mindset of "something is wrong with him and if not then he better sweep me off my feet". Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-89751438302042864622013-02-04T09:09:04.835-07:002013-02-04T09:09:04.835-07:00Hehehe. The PS made me snicker. As someone who is ...Hehehe. The PS made me snicker. As someone who is notorious for friend-zoning, I must ask, what is your opinion on the Friend Zone? I know you think guys and girls can't be friends, but what about when one party makes their lack of romantic interest firmly known? I have a plethora of friends who I can have a wonderful time with in a group setting, but revolt me in regards to dating. See, I believe that there are two sides to every guy, the friend side and the date side. Most of the guys I've dated in the past two years have been incredibly funny and interesting and normal when hanging out, but become disturbingly clingy and dramatic whenever they like me. We absolutely don't hit it off romantically, but are perfectly fine friends. So I guess to me there's a clause to the guys and girls can't be friends thing. You can't be friends without occasionally having to deal with one party pursuing the other, which is far from a point of no return. Thoughts?Emiliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10617844531833930894noreply@blogger.com