tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post4044321114939723488..comments2024-03-23T19:56:39.134-06:00Comments on Dear Bro Jo . . . : When a Date Doesn't Happen - Part 3Bro Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-19376470256371360812013-11-04T10:34:16.640-07:002013-11-04T10:34:16.640-07:00One part of the letter that interested me was that...One part of the letter that interested me was that the men in her ward wouldn't ask her out because they knew she was "close" with another guy. This is very common, and though I know Bro. Jo doesn't usually advocate for this kind of aggressiveness, I think women who find themselves in this situation would do well to ask a guy out on a casual date. Word will quickly get around which will either inspire other men to ask you out as well, and/or encourage the original guy to get moving and ask you out for real.<br /><br />Just my two cents.Christopher Cunninghamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11886330185703159799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-38360708489125386992013-11-04T08:46:27.983-07:002013-11-04T08:46:27.983-07:00Some thoughts about the, "becoming close frie...Some thoughts about the, "becoming close friends BEFORE the date," part.<br /><br />To many girls allow themselves to be dangled this way, but it's understandable why we do it.<br /><br />My sister had a couple of guys who kind of hung around, mostly in her thoughts and hopes, for years. I told her they weren't actually interested, she always said that could change. They were the kind of guys who came over or contacted only when necessary and mostly only when she initiated the contact. They were decent guys, just not ones who were interested in dating my sister.<br /><br />Imagine her shock when she got friend zoned. It was bound to happen. The guy who you talk to easily with and hang out with is bound to start talking about other girls he wants to date to you because you're just so comfortable...like a sister. It also became clear they only initiated contact when they were recently dumped or just lonely because my sister would always be there...nice guys, but even nice guys can be clueless jerks sometimes.<br /><br />Then there's the other side. The girl who distances herself and is kind and flirtatious in public but she demands to be dated. These girls are left in the cold a lot because, why date a girl you sort of know when your sister-friend lives next door to her, has cookies, and doesn't expect anything? It makes the second girl look cold and scary don't you think?<br /><br />Kind of a paradox. The perception is he won't date you unless he's already established comfortable contact with you, but in reality he also won't date you if he's so close to you you're practically siblings. Dating is a doomed lonely business if this is true.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com