tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post4861812185922295274..comments2024-03-23T19:56:39.134-06:00Comments on Dear Bro Jo . . . : The 90-10 Rule - The Who Gets Asked Out One - A Guy's TakeBro Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-82701282830659826532013-06-04T12:29:11.287-06:002013-06-04T12:29:11.287-06:00I could see it being left by either.
Clearly frus...I could see it being left by either.<br /><br />Clearly frustrations run deep on both sides.<br /><br />- Bro JoBro Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-46872803593167831422013-06-04T00:29:06.578-06:002013-06-04T00:29:06.578-06:00^that comment from 8:11pm on June 2, I'm assum...^that comment from 8:11pm on June 2, I'm assuming it was a woman...? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-75086627953475580672013-06-02T20:11:54.307-06:002013-06-02T20:11:54.307-06:00Now I've attended two of the church schools an...Now I've attended two of the church schools and there are way more than 10% of girls that are attractive! Unfortunately I can't say that there are that many attractive RMs. If guys spent as much time in the mirror and in the gym as they do chasing their so called 10% then BYU and BYU would be a more beautiful place. You are not all going to end up with the prom queen or the cheerleader so branch out men!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-68456132329378461512013-06-02T11:13:45.295-06:002013-06-02T11:13:45.295-06:00What kind of intentions are you referring to? And ...What kind of intentions are you referring to? And what's wrong with only wanting to ask the girls he thinks he's interested in at a glance? Guys don't think that they can only ask out the girls they're "interested in at a glance". What they do think is that they should only ask the girls they're interested in. There are countless opportunities in which you can show the great things about you to guys. It doesn't only have to be in dates. There are many girls out there that guys find attractive before they even go on dates with them, and they're not just the very pretty girls. I'm sure you know some of these girls that get asked out by so many guys; ask them for pointers and learn from them. You don't need a date in order for a guy to be interested in you. Again, guys typically have an interest of some sorts in you before he asks you out. Sometimes it takes weeks of him getting to that point from seeing you and how you are in class/church/elsewhere, but by the time he asks you out there's a chance that he's already interested. Bro Jo is right in the sense that if we were taught more about casual dating when we were younger, then we wouldn't only be asking out the girls we're interested in. At the same time, we need to know that dates aren't the only situation in which someone should become attracted to you. Because if someone doesn't get many dates then she won't have the chance to get guys interested.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-68427393684155707652013-06-02T05:20:11.747-06:002013-06-02T05:20:11.747-06:00If a guy is honest in his intentions when asking a...If a guy is honest in his intentions when asking a girl out, then he wouldn't have to worry so much about the pressure of feeling like he can only ask out the girls he thinks he's interested in at a glance. Honestly, you're not going to get as much information about a girl's personality from YSA activities as you think you're getting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-15218680465811039812013-05-30T09:47:01.966-06:002013-05-30T09:47:01.966-06:00"Girls become attracted to the man they'r..."Girls become attracted to the man they're in love with; guys fall in love with the girl they're attracted to"<br /><br />- Bro JoBro Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-41574382031549885812013-05-30T09:20:09.601-06:002013-05-30T09:20:09.601-06:00So I've tried going out with girls I wasn'...So I've tried going out with girls I wasn't interested in initially. Sometimes I find that I have fun while I'm with them, but not once has attraction grown where there initially was none. Given that (whether you want it to be or not) asking a person out is an expression of interest, I have concluded that it's dishonest to ask out someone you're not interested in.<br /><br />Anyway, if a YSA is going to the ward activities, etc., he can easily have a pretty good idea of what a given girl's personality is like...at least enough to know whether her personality is interesting to him or not.Mikenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-39848469377918981402013-05-24T14:37:49.283-06:002013-05-24T14:37:49.283-06:00Exactly!
Well said.
- Bro JoExactly!<br /><br />Well said.<br /><br />- Bro JoBro Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-21226045975688098352013-05-24T14:12:22.480-06:002013-05-24T14:12:22.480-06:00My husband literally went on hundreds of first dat...My husband literally went on hundreds of first dates before we met. His philosophy was that by going on a casual first date (our first date was getting ice cream at DQ - simple as that), you don't commit much time, but will get to know the girl on a personal basis. It doesn't have to be the prettiest girl in the ward - maybe just someone you think you might have something in common with. The conversation only has to be as long as your ice cream is big. If you find you have a lot in common, then maybe a second date is in order.<br /><br />On the flip side, I knew a LOT of girls at my time at BYU-Idaho who sat in their apartments, hung out with roommates, didn't branch out at church, and didn't attend any Ward or school activities... and then complained about not dating!! If you never talk to any boys, they will never think they might have something in common with you (see above), and never ask you out. It's definitely a two way street; one that starts with (like you said Bro Jo) remembering that dates should be casual, and just because you go on one doesn't mean you're meant to be for time and all Eternity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com