tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post5207920533056939235..comments2024-03-23T19:56:39.134-06:00Comments on Dear Bro Jo . . . : Dealing with Divorce - Part 1Bro Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-88958002942523127262014-04-16T07:08:28.497-06:002014-04-16T07:08:28.497-06:00It is hard when family members make choices we don...It is hard when family members make choices we don't like. My parents divorced when I was six. I hated Father's Day because I had to admit there was no one filling that role in my life. As a child I blamed myself and thought God hated me because he didn't give me a healthy father. But as I have grown I realized that my mother made choices, my father made choices and they did not always consider my point of view or my feelings. As a child, our job is to accept their choices and learn to live with them the best we can. The Savior can heal your heart over time and take the hatred and replace it with understanding. He did this for me in a very unusual way. God asked me to do family history work for my fathers side. As I did this work I found many wonderful women who married messed up men. The strong women in my line gave me hope. I found out that my paternal grandmother shared the gospel with my father and as my mom said,"She was the only person who my father felt loved him". We cannot see everything as God sees it and we do not understand why we must suffer for the choices of others but all will be for our good in the end. I want to let you know that your childhood is a beginning but it should not be your ending. Choose to live a different kind of life. Build yourself up and become the spouse you hope to recieve. Believe in marriage and temple covenants because that is the best way to protect children. Marriage is work and there will be days that you might want to give up but turn to the Savior and he will help you endure the dark days and lead you into the light again. I have been married for almost 20 years and I have 5 children. They have always had a father in their life and they had the happy childhood I wished I had had. As an adult you will have more power to write a happy ending. I will be praying for you:) I hope God be with you at this time and may you know of his personal love and deep tenderness towards those who suffer.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com