tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post7205888464466885921..comments2024-03-23T19:56:39.134-06:00Comments on Dear Bro Jo . . . : Questions About SexBro Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-66854806396809588542015-09-28T13:21:26.685-06:002015-09-28T13:21:26.685-06:00Yes to what Kristin said! I taught the chastity le...Yes to what Kristin said! I taught the chastity lesson to the YW in my ward last year and while I did explain many of the "don'ts" and went into detail as to what specifically those are (I had wished I knew more about those details as a youth), I also told them "It is OKAY to feel sexy. It is okay to want to feel sexy. It is okay to have those feelings towards another person. It is actually GOOD and you are SUPPOSED to have those feelings. Don't feel ashamed for wanting these things. It's in our nature and it's there for a reason. Heavenly Father put it there. All you need to worry about is how, where, when, and with who you share those feelings. Heavenly Father set up these standards for what he gave us." And then we went over details on "When is this okay? Why is this okay?"<br />It ended up being a really positive discussion. Yeah, there was squirming and giggles (this was all the YW in one lesson, 12-18), but in the end there was a super positive spirit in the room. Lauranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-12954508742079280222015-09-26T11:07:59.920-06:002015-09-26T11:07:59.920-06:00Anon,
I'm not married, or engaged, or even in...Anon,<br /><br />I'm not married, or engaged, or even in a relationship, but there's something else I want to throw out here. Idk how old you are or how long you've been a member of the Church, but I feel the exact same way you do about the whole "we were often just told the "don'ts" and about remaining pure". I was born in the Church and have been active my whole life, so I have sat through many chastity lessons, especially in YW, and that's about all I came away with, too. I love my past young women's leaders, and I know they did the best they could, but my general sense (in talking to other girl friends) has been that we grew up in a culture where sex was subtly shamed just because of the context we got. We always heard 'Be Pure' and a long list of don'ts. Now that we're coming of age and getting married, a lot of girls I know have/do struggle with "good girl syndrome". We've been told all our lives to be chaste and not have sex, but as soon as we get married, everyone's winking at us and wanting us to pop out babies. You can't turn that switch over night.<br /><br />What I want to add to everyone else's comments is that we are the leaders of the next generation. I think it will be our responsibility to teach chastity in a way that the youth in our stewardships understand how sacred sexual intimacy is. It's not bad or gross or evil, but there is a time and a place for sex. Keep this experience tucked in your mind as you're learning and use it to help the next generation grow into their young adulthood!Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01957301427973795513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-85619713588804618832015-09-26T00:58:34.377-06:002015-09-26T00:58:34.377-06:00I agree with everyone above and I was pretty nervo...I agree with everyone above and I was pretty nervous too. My mom bought me a book called "Between Husband & Wife" at the lds bookstore. It was fantastic in conbining gospel truths with the and any general questions you may have. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-49859550055611647292015-09-25T14:50:53.680-06:002015-09-25T14:50:53.680-06:00I also recommend "The Act of Marriage." ...I also recommend "The Act of Marriage." My fiance and I read it when we were engaged, and since being married.<br /><br />This website helped<br />http://talesfromthecrib.blogspot.com/2006/04/speaking-girl-to-girl-mormon-honeymoon.html<br /><br />a book called "the good girl's guide to great sex." <br /><br />and "and they were not ashamed." All of these are christian, but this book is specifically LDS.<br /><br />Moms are great, too. If you have that kind of relationship.<br /><br />As you can tell, I was really nervous before our wedding night :) and my husband and i weren't fully prepared, but when you're ready to discuss intimacy, it's great to at least be on the same page. But nothing beats learning together through experience! Bro Jo's right--it's awkward and messy and weird, but so fun!Amberlienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-71959393523733902922015-09-25T14:40:03.919-06:002015-09-25T14:40:03.919-06:00A good resource for learning about the positive as...A good resource for learning about the positive aspects of sex is Elder Holland's talk "Of Souls, Symbols, and Sacraments." It is very reverent and respectful. You can also watch the Devotional address on YouTube or buy the book.Alexa Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03905047481272338210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-18246536865907726232015-09-25T08:47:50.735-06:002015-09-25T08:47:50.735-06:00I like the recommendation of "The Act of Marr...I like the recommendation of "The Act of Marriage". When I was engaged I asked a physician at the student health center how I could prepare for marriage and he recommended that book. My fiancé and I read it separately and talked about what we wanted and hoped for. The book is a simple explanation of how sex works. It is not LDS but is a spiritually based and I appreciated that. Sex is something to people who love one another should learn about together over time. Make sure you do not over schedule yourself on your wedding day because your relationship should be the focus not all the parties, dinners, receptions etc. I hope you have the best of honeymoons!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-75912359654124137242015-09-25T07:59:54.066-06:002015-09-25T07:59:54.066-06:00My wife and I had premarital counseling at the stu...My wife and I had premarital counseling at the student health center at BYU-IDAHO. The phycologists recommended "and they were not ashamed" and "the act of marriage". Both were excellent books. If you're a student at a CES school both books can be found at the school bookstore, and the counseling center may have copies for you to borrow.LDSNerdnoreply@blogger.com