tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post7558742790832362465..comments2024-03-23T19:56:39.134-06:00Comments on Dear Bro Jo . . . : Marriage Pressure . . . at 17Bro Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-63929613700033962762015-02-24T18:18:18.170-07:002015-02-24T18:18:18.170-07:00Thank you and your wife for the advice! I'll p...Thank you and your wife for the advice! I'll probably go with option C, but we'll see once I get up there. <br />-Sara<br />Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06828757862964291984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-12050964918202150052015-01-22T14:49:49.039-07:002015-01-22T14:49:49.039-07:00Sara,
Sister Jo and I talked about this.
You cou...Sara,<br /><br />Sister Jo and I talked about this.<br /><br />You could . . .<br /><br />A) Keep Casual Group Dating until you feel old enough. (Casual Group Dates are for High School Students, so that's who you should go with.)<br /><br />B) Not date until you feel old enough to Serious Single Date.<br /><br />C) Get over it. Realize that if you're mature enough to be in college you're mature enough to Serious Single Date.<br /><br /><br />You will know what's best for you. Your parents can guide you, but Be Aware if you've got those parents that are Too Uptight or Too Permissive.<br /><br />(I'm sure you know which kind you have.)<br /><br /><br />What WAY TOO MANY people, particularly in the Church, fail to understand is that there's a HUGE CHASM between a First Date and a Marriage Proposal. At least there is for sane people.<br /><br />Be Sane. Relax. Have fun dating!<br /><br />- Bro JoBro Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04525964417706399553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-34954440309510147092015-01-15T17:13:59.033-07:002015-01-15T17:13:59.033-07:00Bro Jo,
What are your thoughts on this: I will be ...Bro Jo,<br />What are your thoughts on this: I will be starting college in the fall, but I won't be 18 until a few months after the semester starts. I know I want to marry in the temple someday, but not when I'm so young! Should I be group dating until im 18, even though i'll be at college? If so, how would i do that when most people are older and ready for serious single dating?Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06828757862964291984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-70222125232648550642015-01-15T04:39:21.805-07:002015-01-15T04:39:21.805-07:00Little Sister, I'm 22, going on 23 come Summer...Little Sister, I'm 22, going on 23 come Summer. Everyone who knew me was convinced that I'd be married by the end of my first semester at university, and I had people trying to set me up with their sons/grandsons/nephews, etcetera, and I would get the what-for when people find out I'm still single- still do, and sometimes they go full cardiac arrest when they find out I've never had a real boyfriend or have been out on more than one date with any one man at any time. So naturally, I freaked out too.<br /><br />Five years later, I'm still on my own, and I have really struggled with watching my peers and family find spouses and have children, while I'm still stuck being single and stuck in the friend zone, and not for the lack of trying to get out. But, I've learned a lot, and a big part of that is to not put deadlines on the Lord, because the timing isn't up to you. The Lord will put you in the situations He needs you in, and you either have the choice to embrace and be happy with your circumstances, or be bitter and miserable because it isn't where you want to be at the moment. <br /><br />I promise, you'll be happier if you give your worries to the Lord for safekeeping and focus on living your life and becoming a better person one day at a time. Go out and enjoy this time, and learn as much as you can, because your experience will help you in the years to come. When the time comes, the Lord will lead you to the very best choice, and the pieces will fall into their proper order. Trust the Lord, and don't worry so much. You'll find that life is much easier that way. Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05625262109562168893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8729080532188674868.post-3974027698877176052015-01-13T13:01:07.545-07:002015-01-13T13:01:07.545-07:00The best thing a young person can do is to prepare...The best thing a young person can do is to prepare to enter the Temple - and all that that implies. Live your life yearning to learn, grow in your testimony, gain skills, excel at your job, serve others as often as you can, and cultivate wonderful reltaionships. Be open to the opportunities the Lord places in your way, especially when it comes to dating and relationships, but don't make it the main focus of your life. Otherwise you'll have to find out who you are after the dust of the wedding settles, and that is a lose-lose for everyone involved.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com