How to Not Be a Victim - Lesson 1

Hello, again!

Thank you for your previous advice. I come to you now, with a different dilemma.

Background info about me. I'm newly 18, a member my whole life, strong LDS family, etc. I dress modestly, carry myself well, take care of my skin and hair and such. I think I'm attractive... at least... I know I'm not ugly.

I usually drive my car with my windows down because my air conditioning doesn't work so well. When I stop at lights, if an older man is in his car, usually looks about 35 +, he will wink, wave, holler, or whistle at me. It's quite uncomfortable and I have come home shaky and on the verge of tears. I've stopped riding with my windows down but this behavior of these men continues in stores or whenever I go out... even men in my neighborhood. Maybe it's because I live in Vegas?

I don't know why it upsets me so badly. I try to ignore it. I just don't know what to do. Please give me any advice you can. Thank you in advance!!

-Scared


Dear Scared,

I believe theses guys exist, but I've never actually known anyone that thinks he can effective woo a woman with catcalls and horn blowing. To me a guy couldn't be less attractive and more of a dork if he wore an "I'm a loser" sign around his neck.

While there may be lots of girls out there that would love to have the attention you're getting, even if for just one day, I can understand where it could get demeaning and obnoxious. And you shouldn't have to feel like you're a prisoner in your own car. To that end I offer up:

Bro Jo's LIST of HOW a GIRL CAN BE LESS ATTRACTIVE in a CAR

1) Get a big, fake diamond looking ring and hang it out the window at them. Perhaps adding to that a phrase like "keep dreaming, Grandpa, you could never afford me!". (Although it IS possible that in Nevada a line like that could get you arrested . . .)

2) Put a "pregnant woman on board" sign in your window (pregnancy is beautiful, but creepy guys will get scared off)

3) Use a clever comeback line, like:

- "thank you, my girlfriend feels the same way"

- "hey, can you hold still? My boyfriend is a Marine and he loves to beat up guys that hit on me. I want to send him your picture"

- "hey, pal, that may have worked for you in the 50's, but girls don't like that anymore"

- "hi! Give me your phone number, my dad's a cop and he'd love to talk to anyone harassing his 16 year old daughter"

- "can you pull up a bit? I need to write your license plate number down for the police"

- (my favorite) "wow, if you could see what I can see right now you'd know exactly why you'll never get a girl like me"

4) Get a big mean dog to ride along with you

5) Turn up the car stereo, preferably playing a Girl Empowerment song or a Female Talk Radio star

6) Honk your horn and don't let it go until they go away

7) Use the moment as a proseliting opportunity "Hi, would you like to learn more about Jesus? Here's a Book of Mormon"


The point is, stop being Scared. Take control. Stand up for yourself.

Don't invite danger, but don't allow yourself to be a victim either.

- Bro Jo