Love at First Sight

Dear Bro Jo,

Does Bro Jo believe in love at 1st site?

- W



Dear W,

Nope.

I do believe in attraction at first sight, and instant spiritual promptings that you really should get to know someone, but love requires some familiarity.

Love is something that grows, not something that magically appears.

(Related tangent: we often confuse the Spirit with love, which is why non-engaged people shouldn't go on Temple dates.)

Now, all of that said, when I first saw the future Sister Jo I was VERY attracted to her. Six months later when we had what I call our first date I seriously thought "wow, I could fall in love with this girl". Three months after that when we had what she calls our first date, I was absolutely smitten with her. And there are times now, 20+ years later, when think I wanted to marry her from the very first day we met, as if it was prearranged in heaven.

And this comes from a guy who absolutely doesn't believe that there's just one person out there for each of us.

(But that's not what I told her when we were dating - I used the "we are destined to be together" line relentlessly!)

- Bro Jo