One Girl's Story - Part 3 of 5: They've Had the Talk

[Dear Readers, 

 A special treat this week. Five posts, all from the same sister. 

I'd like you to see how life changes and evolves in just a few short years. 

This email came one week after Part 2. 

Best to you all, 

- Bro Jo]




Dear Bro Jo,

So I did it.

I talked to him last night. I took the week to really think about it and how I wanted to approach talking to him. I also was out of town all weekend (camping) and when I got back Sunday morning I had a text from him just asking how I was.

It was awkward...

So I responded a few times and just asked him if he could chat later that night.

I just asked him if he was trying to be more of friends at this point, and he said yes, that he realized he wasn't ready to start dating again.

I knew he had had a pretty bad breakup in the past 6 months, and he was still bitter about it, and I should have taken that as a sign that he wasn't ready to date, but I liked him so much I ignored that fact.

Last night it came out that the break up had only been 3 months before we met.

And he had thought she was the one.

I think he has a lot of unresolved issues from it.

He kept apologizing and saying that he felt bad he didn't want to hurt me and that's why he handled it so poorly.

I told him that I would have understood if he had of told me when he realized it, and I'm probably more upset that he dragged me along than anything.

The biggest thing I think I got from this is that I was getting asked out by other guys and wasn't sure what to do, because I liked this boy enough to not want to go out with other guys.

But I can move on and start going out with other guys without all of this in the back of my mind. Thank you for telling me to talk to him, I probably would have just let it fizzle out and I would have never had answers.

It hurts a lot, but I think I'm pretty resilient and I'll be okay sooner than later.

- Still One Lonely Ute

PS:  When I said something about our mutual friend who I thought he was too close to, he was astounded that I was ever jealous of that!

He couldn't believe that I would feel threatened, and he pretty much said he would never decrease a friendship with someone for a relationship with another person, because he saw them as two totally separate things.

I disagree with him, but I found it interesting.

Anyways, thanks again!





Dear One,

Hard as it is, knowing is better than not knowing . . . I think.

It will be interesting to watch this young man as he learns somethings about friendship and relationships.

Best,

- Bro Jo