Talking to Your Bishop about Pornography

Dear Bro Jo,

I have been dealing with something that I was hoping you could help with.

A few months ago I had been struggling with pornography and I've done some things I'm not proud of.

I felt truly horrible about it, repented and stayed away from it and moved on with my life.

Or at least I thought I had.

I read in a New Era an article that made me realize that in order to truly repent I had to talk to my Bishop.

I'm scared.

I really want to talk to him and get rid of this guilt I've been feeling ever since.

I want to tell my parents first but I'm afraid of their reaction.

They always say they trust me and I don't want to hurt them or disappoint them but I know I have to do the right thing.

I also don't trust the Bishop as much as I would like to.

I realize that the only opinion I should really care about is God's but it doesn't make it easier.

I don't know how to approach them and just come out with it.

I don't want to feel this way anymore.

Please help.

Thanks.

- Name Withheld




Dear NW,

Addiction isn't something that goes away; it's something that is a constant battle.

(And knowing that is actually a good thing.)

I'm not saying you're addicted, necessarily, but if you are I think it can be freeing to know the realities of how addiction works so that you can better ward off temptation.

Talking to your Bishop will be something you're really glad you've done. Start there.

Satan wants to keep you from the Love of the Savior, to keep you from feeling the Spirit, from feeling good about yourself.

He works hard to make you feel like your Bishop can't be trusted, like you're unloved, alone, and unworthy.

I've met a lot of Bishops and while no one is perfect, and each has their own promptings and style, if you go in with an open heart and contrite spirit I think you'll see that this good priesthood holder loves you and cares for you and wants desperately to help you.


Use our communication today as a catalyst to talk to him right away.


I figure you sent me this email (perhaps you were prompted?) so that I will tell you what I tell everyone: go make the call RIGHT NOW and set the appointment!

You can do it!

You'll be so glad you did.

And whenever you're struggling, including before the actual meeting, pray for help.

The Savior's Love is a wonderful thing.

God bless,

- Bro Jo