Who Drives to a Girl-Ask-Guy Dance?

Dear Bro Jo,

I'm going in a group with three other couples to a girl-ask-guy multi-stake semi-formal.

My question is... who drives?

I have a license and a car, and so does my date, but I guess I feel a little weird about driving in a dress and heels and how the whole, "guy opening the door" thing works out. I've been to a couple of other dances, just not where I did the asking.

Any other tips about the dance would be greatly appreciated, this is all really new to me and the girls in my group have even less experience.

Thank you!

- Short and Sweet




Dear S&S,

Depending on the norm for your area and the culture, Girl-Ask-Guy typically means that you trade places when it comes to Plan, Pick-up and Pay.

He still needs to treat you well; he still needs to be a gentleman - and that includes opening doors for you.  But this time he'll be opening the driver's side door instead of the passenger side.

You're still a girl, and he's still a guy, so the regular date protocols don't change.

If you can't drive in heels, don't wear heels.  Either switch your shoes out when you drive or go in shoes you can drive in.

Or get someone else to drive. 

Remember, if you're still a youth then this, even though it's formal, needs to be a Group Date.  Perhaps one of the other girls in your group will be more comfortable driving.

Have fun!

- Bro Jo