Tuesday, May 12, 2009

How to Ask Her Out

Dear Bro Jo,

Hi Bro!

There is one girl who is giving me clean signals to ask her for a date. But, I suck at the looks and she is very beautiful. She is always covered by her friends and I am not able to approach her directly. The thing only we did was, I danced with her Bachata and she enjoyed it a lot.

Please Bro help me, How should I approach her? What should I say? and How do I ask her out? 

Please Bro Please, Help me.

Your Younger Bro,

Aman


My Brother Aman,

If you can dance Bachata you don’t need much romance advice from me; is there a better music for wooing women?

I don’t think so!

Don’t worry about looks; girls aren’t as superficial as we are. If they were, very few Actors, Comedians and Musicians would be dating Supermodels; and I never would have gotten Sister Jo.

Girls see beyond how we look and see our hearts, our hopes, and our humor. Any girl that doesn’t, you don’t want to date.

It’s tough to get up the courage to ask for a date if you can’t separate her from the pack, so let’s start there.

Try approaching her when she’s with her girlfriends and asking to speak to her privately. If she’s a decent person, she’ll agree. Plus her friends will be impressed with your courage and think the gesture is romantic. (This is where a wing-man or two can really come in handy; either so all of you can ask all of them out as a group, or so they can preoccupy the other girls while you pull her aside and talk to her alone).

If that doesn’t work, visit her at home. Be prepared to talk to her father (or Mom or Grandma), so dress sharp and Be Respectful.

Whether she comes to the door or you sequester her from her friends, have your plan prepared in advance so you know exactly what you’re inviting her to do.

What you say may vary depending on whether you’re Serious Dating Age or Casual Dating Age, but essentially you say this:

“On This day I’m planning This, and I’m wondering, will you be my date?”

That’s it, Aman. Just that easy.

“On Saturday my friend and I are planning a Dinner Double Date. I would love it if you would be my date; would you like to go?”

I can’t promise she’ll agree, but that’s why we practice dating. For some of us it takes many women saying no before the right woman says yes.

If she does say yes, be prepared with the time you’ll be picking her up, and to answer her simple questions, such as: “who is the friend that’s your dating buddy?” and “where are we going and what time will you pick me up?”

If she says no because she’s unavailable, ask her if she’d consider going out with you another time. If she says yes, ask when she’ll be available next.

If she says no to either question, kindly thank her for her time, politely wisher her well, and make a gracious exit.

Cry it out when you get home, then get over her and move on to the next girl!

Best of luck, my friend! As Sister Jo tells me often: “I never said it would be easy; I only said it will be worth it!”

- Bro Jo



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