[Readers - the following was posted as a comment on "The Un-forgiven ". I've decided to respond to it separately here.]
What does a guy have to do to get a girl to notice him? I talk to them and I dance with them at dances but it seems like they never show any interest in me... What kind of tips or advice do you have for a guy?
Signed,
Chick Repellent
Dear Repellent,
Be careful what you ask for . . .
How much attention do you really want?
Unless you’re at the point in life where it’s time to look for a wife, and I’ll bet you’re not (That would be a different letter), then you don’t want a girlfriend – trust me.
And I’d say that girls dancing with and talking to you IS interest (even if they’re just being polite, which is possible) . . . what I’m getting at is that it sounds like you want something more.
“Like what?” I wonder.
A date?
Many dates?
To be smooched?
Are you lonely?
Are you looking for some type of Social Status Upgrade or type of Reassurance that you are a Good and Valuable person? Have you convinced yourself that your value is somehow tied to the commitment or compliments from another person?
You may want to check out my Note on the Facebook Fan Page: Bro Jo’s “Things Guys Can Do to Make Themselves More Attractive to the Opposite Sex” for some good, basic ideas on how to improve your chances.
One word of caution: often when a guy is “desperate” for more attention from women, he makes a complete idiot out of himself. “Play it cool, boy!” (Bonus points if you name the musical)
Grabbing, chasing, trying to wrestle, hanging on, groping, the “cover-the-eyes” guess who game, and all of those “please look at me” things (talking really loud, showing off, mocking others, etc.) are not just inappropriate ways to get a girl to notice you, they’re immature. They weren’t even good ideas in elementary school.
Women (and girls) are attracted to confidence. Discover who you are and Be That.
West Side story? :P
ReplyDeletePS:MANY/MOST girls feel the same way because we wait for self-conscious guys to ask US out! So us girls wait and wait to be pursued to no avail; it really affects a girl's self-esteem. So consider yourself lucky, you can take action and be the pursue-R. ...Go on! Pursue! Some self-conscious GIRLS will thank you for it.
-And Waiting
Right musical; slightly off-base comment. You're right, Repellent should be encouraged to ask girls out, but you sisters could stand to do more Encouraging and less Waiting Around.
ReplyDeleteCheck out the Facebook Notes
- Bro Jo's "How a Girl Can Get a Guy to Ask Her on a Date"
and
- Bro Jo's Ten Ways to Increase the Chances a Guy Will Actually Call
- Bro Jo