When a Date Doesn't Happen - Part 2

Dear Bro Jo,

Hi again Bro Jo,

That is going to be a hard text to send...

Especially since neither of us have openly called it a "date" yet.

I have pointed out to him how bummed I was because I was really looking forward to him taking me and he said he was looking forward to taking me too.

 But when you say to "try harder"...Do you think waiting until after the holiday is a bad idea?

Should we try and squeeze in a time in this month?

Speaking of... We're having a ward holiday party/dance next week (again though, he isn't in my ward) and I kind of think it would be cool if he could be there...

In fact I'd be ecstatic if we could go together!

But the distance he'd have to drive worries me.

I don't know how familiar you are with (location withheld), but I'm about an hour's drive away from him.

So now I need to make a decision...tell him about it and hope he volunteers to come with me (because poor little me will be left all on my lonesome otherwise), flat out "make the first move" and ask him to come with me, or ignore it because he'd have to drive so far...

He works for UPS too, which means he drives all day which makes me feel REALLY guilty when I want to ask him to drive even more...

Dating's confusing; why can't we just put a bunch of names in a hat and say "okay, you're going out with this person this week and that person the next week..."

- C




Dear C,

You're not the only one that wishes dating was easier, but I don't think it has to be as hard as many of you seem to want to make it out to be.

It's like you keep putting up barriers where none need to exist.  Rather than focus on the problems, see the solutions.

Oh, and the answer to your last question is "because everything of value requires hard work".

- Bro Jo

PS:  I drove 2.5 hours - EACH WAY - to see Sister Jo when we first started dating.  It was worth every mile.