I have been dating this guy up at school for the past few weeks.
Everything was going great, then today he decides "we need to talk".
He has decided we need to become friends before we can continue dating.
The idea of this is confusing to me.
We are friends, we enjoy each-others company, we have great conversations.
We do kiss and hold hands but that is not the center of the relationship.
So once I finally got him to say what is behind all of this, this is what he said... "I just don't want to keep going then maybe get married and not know you, as well as I should. From where we are now, I see it going in one of two ways in a short period of time. Those two directions being, getting married or breaking up."
So from what I understand is he just wants to slow down a bit, the thing I am having a hard time with is going backwards to friends.
I feel like this falls under hanging out, and I am dead set against that.
I mentioned why don't we just continue dating and continue to get to know each other, my friend suggested we have like a timeline.
So say we will continue dating, but won't bring up engagement until, say . . . December (just a time we are both comfortable with).
Bro Jo, how would you recommend handling this?
I am so out of practice with this.
I haven't been in a relationship since high school about 4 years ago.
I am trying to follow the guidance of the general authorities. How do they define Hanging out?
Is being "friends" looked at as the same thing?
- To Be or Not to Be