Formal Dance Dilemma

Dear Bro Jo,

I need some advice.

There is a guy who likes me, is not Mormon, knows I can't have boyfriend and is trying to still be friends.

He also asked me to formal.

I said I would go with him but now things are a bit complicated. My parents said I needed to be in either a group or with another couple. My friends started organizing their group to go to formal.

One of my friends offered for us to meet at her house and take cars from there. This same friend went and had an argument with my date to formal. Which ended with them not wanting to talk to each other or sit together at formal.

So now I don't know what to do. None of my other friends have dates so I can't just join with them. But I can't go by myself with my date.

I now have to figure out what to do, who to go with and who to sit with. Please help me.

Thanks,

Torn Between



Dear Torn,

A dilemma indeed!

The first thing you need to do is talk to your date and explain both the Dating Rules and your reasons for wanting to keep things casual between you.

You also need to talk to both he and your friend and encourage them to patch things up; if they won't do it because it's the mature Christ-like thing to do, maybe they'll do it for you.

Even if they don't, I think you should still plan on going in that group. Better a conflicted group than as a single couple or not at all.

Have fun at the dance!

- Bro Jo



Dear Bro Jo,

Sorry I took so long to reply.

Thanks for the advice.

Turns out my date solved the problem for me and decided not to take me after all. So I don't have that problem anymore.

Thanks for your great advice though :)

Thanks,

No longer torn...



Dear Torn,

Well I'm terribly sorry to hear that. What happened?

I hope someone else asks,

- Bro Jo



Dear Bro Jo,

Well he said that due to the clashes with our friends and because we are so different it might be best if we didn’t go together... So I no longer am going with him.

Thanks, I kinda hope so too. Not really very hopeful though.

By the way I am ordering your dating book on the weekend :) I decided it was a worthwhile use of my money.

Thanks,

Torn




Dear Torn,

It might be a good idea to make sure your friends know that you don't have a date for the dance, lest anyone inquire and be given wrong information. But know this: some of the most wonderful girls don't get asked to formal dances in high school, or even date much.

Including Sister Jo.

It worked out very well for yours truly that she went to school with dumb guys and bad daters.

Hope you enjoy the book,

- Bro Jo