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Friday, June 15, 2012

Communication is the Key . . . again.

Dear Bro Jo,

I'll just get this out of the way: I like a guy.

So typical, right?

Well I am 17 years old, he's 18, and I've really liked him for about a year. Then, a couple of weeks ago, he asked me on a date.

Obviously, I was pumped... But he cancelled the day of, and hasn't spoken to me since (It's been about 2 weeks). I know that there wasn't an emergency that necessitated his attention that day (I'm good friends with his sisters), he just cancelled.

And I'm hurt.

I don't know why he would randomly change his mind, and I don't know what I did wrong. I don't know what made him decide I wasn't date-worthy. And I don't know what to do about it. I do realize that I'm only 17, and I'm not looking for a serious relationship. He'll be going on his mission in a year, I'll be going to University, and we'll part ways. But that still doesn't really help the whole hurt-feelings thing. (As a bit of a background, I've been on a total of one date.)

For whatever reason, and this was only the second time I've ever been asked out, so I'm feeling pretty low.

To wrap this up, what should I do? Is he just being a jerk? Did I do something? Is there something wrong with me?

-Confused and Hurt.

Dear Confused,

I don't know.

And neither do you.

Rather than get all dramatic about it, why don't you just ask him?

- Bro Jo


Anonymous said...

Wow BroJo that was maybe a little mean! I totally agree that she should just ask him whats going on, but you didn't say it in the nicest of ways.

Dave Johnston said...


I thought I did.

I mean, yes, I'm harsh often, but I was actually thinking nice and happy thoughts when I wrote that response.

Try rereading it while smiling . . . let me know if you still feel that way.

- Bro Jo