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Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Getting a Good Group to the Big Dance

Dear Bro Jo,

I need some advice. There is a guy who likes me, is not Mormon, knows I can't have boyfriend and is trying to still be friends. He also asked me to formal. I said I would go with him but now things are a bit complicated.

My parents said I needed to be in either a group or with another couple. My friends started organizing their group to go to formal. One of my friends offered for us to meet at her house and take cars from there. This same friend went and had an argument with my date to formal. Which ended with them not wanting to talk to each other or sit together at formal.

So now I don't know what to do. None of my other friends have dates so I can't just join with them. But I can't go by myself with my date. I now have to figure out what to do, who to go with and who to sit with.

Please help me.

Thanks,

Torn between.


Dear Torn,

A dilemma indeed!

The first thing you need to do is talk to your date and explain both the Dating Rules and your reasons for wanting to keep things casual between you.

You also need to talk to both he and your friend and encourage them to patch things up; if they won't to it because it's the mature Christ-like thing to do, maybe they'll do it for you.

Even if they don't, I think you should still plan on going in that group. Better a conflicted group than as a single couple or not at all.

Have fun at the dance!

- Bro Jo

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