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Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Becoming a Better Man

Dear Bro Jo,
I'm just writing to you hoping you'd have some advice for me...

This doesn't need to be published, unless you really want to.

Around 6 months ago, I made the mistake of getting too involved with a girl, relationship wise.
I'm keen to start casually dating good, Church member girls, although the only reason that I want to date is to learn about myself, women, and qualities I want in a future spouse.

My main goal with dating is for me to learn what I want in a wife, as I believe choosing a wife is the biggest decision I will ever make..

I'm here to ask if you have written anything about becoming a better man - I want to use the time I have now to grow and become a great potential husband.

Also, what ages of girls should i be looking at dating? girls my age and older just want RM's . . .

Casual Dating is not as easy as I thought it would be, mainly because there are not a lot of girls age 16+ around.



Dear B,

To become a better man, in my opinion, one must work at being a better Disciple of Christ. As you read through the New Testament, look at what Christ says we will do if we love him; and notice where He says how He will know we are his friends.

Nothing worth doing in life comes easy, and that includes Casual Group Dating. Keep trying.

 As a 16-19 year old young man, I think you should focus on 16-18 year old young women.

- Bro Jo

1 comment:

JulesVerne said...

People say this all the time, but it really is true- The Book of Mormon has the answers to every single question- including becoming a better person as you have fun and interact with the opposite sex. Here's what you do, courtesy of Elder Bednar: Get a clean, fresh copy of the Book of Mormon and decide what topic to study. (Right now I'm studying becoming perfected in Christ in this life)Then get a scripture marker or pen and a quiet place and open with a prayer. Heavenly Father answers sincere prayers about becoming better VERY quickly and lovingly. From a 16-18 year old young woman, THANK YOU for setting such a great example. :)