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Wednesday, August 31, 2011

A Reminder About Courtesy

Hey Bro Jo!

I thought of you when I saw this article... pretty good write-up.

The only part I disagree with is holding the door for other parties who follow your date. I believe you should if they follow quickly enough after... anything else is awkward. I had never really noticed my father's chivalrous actions growing up as unusual... they were engrained from an early age that’s just what you do. I'm thankful now.

- BJ

Thanks, BJ.

Good article.

I find it very frustrating when I'm holding the door for Sister Jo and some other guy comes through. Old guy, wheel-chair guy, that's fine.

But guys under 60?

Very irritating.

I've started watching them coming, and then when they get to me I say "here you go; I'm going to stick with my date" and I motion for them to take the door. Most guys are pretty good about it. They don't mind holding the door for their party, they just need some education. Probably because their fathers weren't as good an example for them as yours was for you.

Thanks for this great reminder about how we should all treat each other with kindness.

- Bro Jo


Anonymous said...

I've had more women hold the door open for me than men. Common courtesy is important for everyone, not just men with women.

Laura said...

love love love love love having the door held open for me. :) It's flattering and actually makes me feel respected, not weak.

JulesVerne said...

I second Laura absolutely. When a guy who you don't know takes step backward out of his group to hold the door for me even when I don't have an armful of things it just makes me me feel warm and fuzzy. It also doesn't hurt his brownie points ;)