I ended up having a DTR with Jay.
It turns out I was completely wrong about his advances. I talked to him. I asked him, "I noticed lately that you have been a little touchy towards me lately and I was wondering if you meant something by it." He thought about what he was going to tell me for a few minutes. He told me that he is just a physically affectionate person and that he feels super close to me that he treats me like his family. He said that he cares for me a lot and that he loves me but not in a romantic way.
I lied. I said that I didn't like him in a romantic way. I honestly did this because I didn't want there to be awkwardness between the two of us and I thought that this might be the best way to do it.
I have a neighbor that is friends with my roommate. I knew that she liked Jared. She and Jared went on a date last Friday and I overheard her say that she didn't even know if she liked him in that way.
It hurt so much hearing her conversation that I had to leave my apartment. I didn't think that it would hurt this much. Like I can't sleep because I keep thinking about it.
Did I read the signals wrong?
Do you have any tips to help me get over him?
Should I tell him that I do like him?
I don't think you read the signals wrong. I think Jay has clearly made some mistakes here ... some he may later come to regret.
I understand your self-preservation move, but wonder if it wouldn't have been better to be a little more upfront ... (meaning, yes, you should have actually told him you like him)
There are four things that help us get over someone:
Bro Jo's List of How to Get Over Someone
1. Be social with your friends
2. Date other people.
3. Be of Service to Others
4. Be Patient
Hang in there!
- Bro Jo