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Monday, September 10, 2012

Girl-Ask-Guy Dance-Date Etiquette Questions

Dear Bro Jo,

I was recently asked to preference, which A) is really exciting because it was from the girl I was hoping would ask me, but B) leaves me a wee bit perplexed. In terms of date/dance etiquette, what's the deal?

I mean, am I supposed to spend the entire night hanging out with this girl?

What if she wants to dance with a different guy, or me with a different lady?

Is this aloud?

Or are we supposed to be attached at the hip all night?

Anything to help out would be nice!

- Name Withheld

Dear NW,

A date is a date, even if it's girl-ask-guy.

While you're on the date, you're HER date, and shouldn't be dancing or flirting with anyone else.

If another girl asks you to dance, your response should be "thank you for asking, but ____________ is my date tonight".

If she leaves you to go dance with someone else, then she's a bad date, but that doesn't give you license to dance with whomever asks. (Although, in the same shoes, I think after the second time I'd talk to her about it and clarify what she expects and what you both think is appropriate . . . aw, who are we kidding? If a girl asked me on a dance-date and she danced with someone else, at your age I probably would have gotten even by dancing with her best friend or sister . . . but you should be a better man than that.)

Have fun at the dance!

- Bro Jo


Anonymous said...

YSA Preference is coming coming up soon, you have suggested a girl ask a guy who has asked you out previously. What if there isn't guy around who has asked you out before? What's a girl to do?

Bro Jo said...

Do what any guy should do if he were in the same situation: ask a guy you know that you can have fun with and go in a Fun Good Group.

And don't pressure him or the situation with relationship baggage.

- Bro Jo