What If There are NO (or few) Eligible Worthy Men Around?

Dear Bro Jo,

I stumbled upon your blog and have started reading the posts.

You have given some great advice, so I thought I would share my story in hopes that you can give me some advice.

Here it goes….I am 23 years old and single.

I attend a young single adult branch. Our branch is very small and we lack men.

The lack of men in our branch is a little depressing.

I know that other sisters in our branch feel the same way and that our prospect of going on dates is very slim. We have about 6 men that attend regularly.

Three men are dating women in our branch, one is my brother, one is eligible and not dating, and one is pre-mission (too young for me and hasn't served a mission yet).

So, as you can see not much of a selection. I have been texting and talking to the one that is eligible and not dating. The problem is he hasn't asked me out on a date.

I have been giving subtle hints that I like him and would like to date, but no success.

I guess my question is what should I do now?

He is a little shy, but I know that can’t be an excuse.

I think the chances that he will ask me out are very low at this point.

I am beginning to think that something is wrong with me.

I have graduated from college and have a full-time job.

I think I am a very sweet and nice individual. I serve as the Relief Society President and love the sisters.

Are men afraid of me?

Is there some inferiority going on?

At this point in my life it seems that I have accomplished a lot and now what?

I am ready to start dating and looking for my eternal companion, but it seems hopeless in our small branch where the members are spread so far apart and the lack of men/men that seem to not want to date.

In my past I have dated two guys, but nothing came of them. I have a few guys that are friends, but that is it.

I try to attend multi-stake activities in other areas, but I’m not finding anyone, or the men don’t want to begin a long distance relationship because we don’t attend the same branch.

Could you help me in my dilemma?

Many thanks,

- Not sure what to do




Dear What to Do,

Well, as far as the Shy Guy goes, I think your best bet is to tell him to ask you out on a date.

Seriously.

"Hey, you need to ask me on a date."

But, more than that, I think you need to move.

You're only 23, you have your whole life ahead of you, and how can you possibly expect to find a worthy priesthood holder to take you to the Temple if there are hardly any around?

People come up with lots of excuses for why they can't move, but I say that they're mostly excuses and nothing more.

Get thee to a more saturated area!

And quick.

- Bro Jo