How to Pursue a Sister Missionary - Part 1 of 3

Dear Bro Jo,

I am 32 years old and live in a European country where the Church has very few active members.

I am single.

Not only am I the only member in my family, but I am also the only member in my town.

My branch is made up of about 70 towns, but has 30 people in all (including non-baptized kids).

A couple of months ago I met a 24-year-old sister missionary from Utah who is serving in this area.

Since then I managed to see her once a week, usually while she is talking to investigators together with other sister missionaries and elders.

She will probably be transferred, sooner or later.

I don't think she was dating anyone before leaving on her mission, and I would like to get to know her better when the mission is over (she has a few months left).

Do you think it is doable?

If you were me, what would you do right now?

- Name Withheld




Dear Friend,

I think it's doable . . . but difficult.

You shouldn't really write until after she goes home . . . and then there's the issue of distance . . . and eventually one or both of you will need to locate to where the other one is . . .

That doesn't mean that it's not worth an effort, though! 

I just don't know if I'd wait around that long.

As I see it you have two (better) options:

1.  Become an excellent Member Missionary and get every single girl you can in your area to join the Church (though it only takes one, mi amigo), or . . .

2.  Move.


Move to a place where the odds are a little more in your favor.

If I were you, I'd pick one of those two options.

Soon.

Which would be more successful?

That's the one to pick.

- Bro Jo




Dear Bro Jo,

I am impressed. I didn't even sign my name, and you replied so quickly.

Thank you.

OK I won't write, or do anything else, until her mission is done.

If she is still interested, she will write first, from home. I don't see any other options.

I will be sure to leave her my contact info, somehow.

Also, I have decided to stop seeing her for the time being, in case things get complicated.

Had she not been a missionary, I would already have asked her out.

I don't rule them out, but I would like to get to know /that/ sister missionary.

Yes, it is difficult, but, as you said, it doesn't mean it is not worth an effort...

- Friend




Dear Friend,

I don't know that I'd leave everything to fate...

A short letter from you sent to her at her home might be a good idea.

Girls do like to be chased after all.

- Bro Jo