Before my mission, I was always a pretty shy guy. More so around my family, and I don’t know why.
My parents are awesome and would never judge me for something I’ve done or am doing. But I’ve just never been able to open up to them the way I should.
The same with everyone who aren’t my closest friends. I can talk to them and be open and loud. But with my parents, I’m silent.
While In the field, I learned how to be outgoing and confident.
I could talk to random people and make them laugh, and I just didn’t care what anyone thought of me.
That constant objective of finding people, and helping them gave me a confidence that I had never had before (I never knew how having a clear objective, or having pure love could make me so outgoing and confident).
But since I’ve gotten back from the mission, I’ve lost that confidence.
I still feel it very hard to open up to my parents, or talk with people. Even more so than before the mission!
Talking to people who I haven’t seen in two years is painful (Hugs or handshakes is a decision that scares me. I never know which to do with casual acquaintances.).
I thought this would ware off after a month, and I’d be back to who I was before. But it’s been almost two months, and I’ve lost a lot of self-confidence.
During my last interview with my mission president, he told me that I never reached my potential in the mission. He told other missionaries that they had reached their potential, but apparently I didn’t give as much as they did.
I felt that I served the Lord well.
But that comment made me feel like a failure.
Now I think back to my mission, and more often than not, I see where I failed.
I sometimes avoid looking at things that remind me of my mission.
Now I feel like I’m in a little bit of a rut.
I know you speak / blog about dating, but I figure a back story helps.
I am at that stage of my life where I should go out on dates, and that requires self-esteem.
I can move on from all this, I learned a little bit about repentance on the mission (apparently not enough), but how can I build up the confidence to talk with a girl when I really doubt myself?
I feel if I could just get back into the dating scene, back into a normal life, I could get some confidence again.
But how do I get that confidence to even talk normally, let alone date?