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Friday, September 9, 2016

Following Up with "Blindsided" - part 3 of 3

Dear Friend,

Soon I'll be posting the emails you sent a couple years ago (from when the "girl of your dreams" blindsided you with a breakup) and it got me wondering if anything more ever came of that relationship and how you're doing now?

Cheers,

- Bro Jo




Dear Bro Jo,

Wow I am so glad you messaged me! You're awesome.

To tell you the truth I had to take a second to remember what happened with "girl of my dreams"....

I guess you could say that's a good benchmark for how I'm doing now!

We never spoke again, fortunately.

After all, she did dump me over text.

That hurt.

She wrote it off as a sick kind of, "it's like ripping off a bandaid, the faster you do it the better".

Relationships aren't band aids and need to be terminated respectfully, IMHO.  I know, you've said this before, but maybe someone else that's newer to your page will see it and take it to heart.

I'm doing incredibly well currently. Next week my wife and I are celebrating our anniversary!

I met my true dream girl about 10 months after that breakup  and we dated for five months, then I proposed, and we got married three months later!

To ditto most other married couples I know: it's the best decision I've ever made.

I'm super grateful for the lessons both verbal and non-verbal I've been taught by those around me who strive to exemplify a happy marriage.

When it comes down to it it was because of those examples that I was excited and eager to get married; the Church being one of the major sources for those examples.

I've also learned on a new level just how much the Lord guides our lives if we're willing to step out of our comfort zone and do what He wants us to do.

It's comforting.

It's good to hear from you Bro Jo, and thank you for checking up!

Hopefully someone will find solace in their time of darkness via my story and know that if they have patience and endure, the Lord does make his promises come true.

P.S. I just realized something. Ever since I got my patriarchal blessing I've always been confused as to why the Lord said that, "in (His) own due way and time you will marry a sweet daughter of God". I realize now that it was because of that episode with that one girl that he said that. Dang. It's crazy how you think you understand a concept and then something happens to make you perceive even more fully just how omnipotent the Lord is.

- Happily Married and Now Mystified




Dear Happily,

Thanks for your email!

I'm so glad, but not surprised, to hear you're doing well. Congratulations on your marriage!

With your permission, I'd like to post this on Friday as a follow-up. I think it will help a lot of our readers who are lonely, sad, and struggling, to realize that things to get better.

Not that life is perfect, but we do recover from breakups, and there are Great Companions out there. 

All the best,

- Bro Jo




Dear Bro Jo,

Absolutely you can!

- Happily



1 comment:

Anna said...

Good for him! That makes me so happy! :D

But I don't think I'd equate breaking up with someone over text with ripping a bandaid off.
I think breaking up with someone cleanly, decisivley and in person is like ripping a bandaid off normally.
Meanwhile doing it over text is like ripping off a bandaid with one of those claw-grabber-stick-things lol.