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Wednesday, October 12, 2016

Should They Go on Dates to the Temple?

Dear Bro Jo,

My missionary comes home in a transfer (yippee)!

He recently wrote me how excited he is to go to the Temple when he gets home (there isn't one in his mission) and how excited he is to go with me (we are both endowed, and served missions),

My question is: do you think it's appropriate that a boyfriend and girlfriend attend the temple together?

I can see pro's and con's to it, but I usually just over think everything-ha

Spiritual feelings can often be confused as love. However, I think attending the Temple a great habit it get into as a couple.

Maybe it’s something to wait for until you're engaged?

Just wondering what your thoughts are on it?

- Just Wondering

Dear Wondering,

I generally frown on non-married people going to the Temple as a date.

I agree that it confuses things.

On a personal level I think it's weird.

Two RMs who are Serious Single Dating bothers me less than when a guy takes his non-endowed girl to do Baptisms for the dead ... that's just bizarre inside of the Zion Curtain wackiness.

Please understand, until he's back and you two have been exclusively dating for a couple months you're not a couple.

Right now you're two people who imagine that you might be great together ... and you might be ... but right now we just don't know.

Both of you should be going to the Temple oft, just not alone together and not as a couple.

Not yet anyway.

- Bro Jo

Dear Bro Jo,

Totally understood, and I agree.


- Wondering

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