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Saturday, December 17, 2011

Sexting - Part 3

[Readers:  The following letter is part of a series we're running Saturday's this month from a reader dealing with a problem with Sexting.  This is part 3 of 4. - Bro Jo]

Bro Jo,

Thanks for the help, I get what you’re trying to say and I understand that your wife is in the loop, I meant like your blog wise. And I am safe.

As the situation with my uncle I feel bad because I feel as if I destroyed his life, yes I know that he did the things to put him in jail but I feel like by turning him in I had a part in it.

I know that I shouldn’t feel sorry for turning him in what so ever but I am just that kind of young woman. I generally always put others before myself. I have never been raped but he made me feel extremely uncomfortable and touched me in places I knew only my spouse should be touching.

I don't really try to bottle things up. I guess in my opinion it just hurts less than admitting the truth. I know that’s bad but sometimes I can’t help it.

I know what the boy did was harmful. That was my reasoning for asking for your advice. I just, I already have enough emotional drama in my life I do not want to stir anything up that I have anyway in controlling. I know that isn’t what I should be doing but it’s all that I am willing to do right now.

Do you think it would be alright if I just tell my bishop and have him help me with this situation without getting anyone else involved?

I really don't want this going any further than it already has. But I mostly do not want this getting to the police.

Or my dad.


- Name Withheld

Dear NW,

I hope you don't feel like I'm pushing too hard . . .

Yes, I think telling your Bishop is a Wonderful idea. And I think you should share with him your concerns about your father and the police knowing. (And if I can help in any way there, you know I will, right?)

By the way, I've yet to mention something I'd like you to know: I'm very proud of you for doing your best to be active even though your family is not. I promise that you'll be blessed for your dedication AND that, through your faithfulness, your family will be blessed as well.

- Bro Jo

Dear Bro Jo,

Of course not, you are just trying to help. =]

And okay. I will tell my bishop. And I know you will help in any way. Thank you for that.

I am making a little progress in getting them active. Last night my step mom ACTUALLY listened in on a missionary discussion. I’m making progress =]

- NW

P.S. After I speak with my bishop I will tell you what he said.


Anonymous said...

just bought your YSA book. Am giving it to my older bro and sis as well, yeah we have three looking for spouses right now. Thanks for all you do. I love the book. :)

Peter & Molly said...

Bro Jo,
I am finding the story of this young woman touching, but I feel a little uncomfortable reading it since it seems like in every letter she asks you not to. I'm sure she must have given you permission at some point, but still, could you put like some kind of a note at the beginning saying that she eventually said it was okay?

Dave Johnston said...

@ Peter & Molly -

I did mention the letter writer giving me permission in the note where I mention this upcoming series of letters (, but I can see where that would be easy to miss . . .

To be honest, I think feeling a little uncomfortable might be a good thing.

One more post to go.

- Bro Jo