Dear Bro Jo.
First I apologize English is no my main language, so I'm Sorry, if it's hard to read this. I'll do my best.
There's a boy in my stake I like. But he lives far away, 3 hours to drive (where I live Stakes are larger than in US).
I'm turning 15 soon and he's fifteen.
Well I've known him many years, because we have some mutual friends in his ward.
Over a year ago I saw him on Stake Dance, and asked him to dance. We had good time with.
Little later I noticed he can be interested in me, and I had a crush on him.
We see each other about once a month or little rarely. We are quite good friends, and he used to call me often.
Last summer I had little problems with him, but problems are over.
After summer I haven't known what is there between us. We are good friends with, and he has said me he likes me more than any other girl.
I want to clarify for me and for him, what is there between us right now, and will be between us in future.
Tell me, what should I do? I want to be good friends with him, and date him when we both will turn 16. What can I do right now to contribute our "relationship" ?
Say if you didn't understand all. Thank you so much!
Ginger
Dear Ginger,
Don't worry about the broken English; it's a tough language (especially the way we Americans use it). I'm impressed with anyone who knows more than one language - good for you!
As far as this guy goes, just keep being nice, perhaps flirt a little, and continue talking to him. Don't pursue him like you want a boyfriend; that may make him feel too much pressure. Since you live so far away, send him a letter; not an email or a text, but an actual hand written (not typed) letter. Become his pen-pal; it will help you get to know him better in a way that's not too threatening or scary.
But, as I always say: its good to get to know people better, and when you turn 16 go on lots of Casual Group Dates, but stay away from the Boyfriend-Girlfriend thing.
- Bro Jo
4 comments:
Hi, I'm also a fifteen year old girl who has a crush on a boy I know from church and school. In a moment of weakness, told him about my feelings. Ack! Now what do I do? He doesn't like me back, but he's a HUGE flirt, so sometimes it's hard for me to tell. I'm too embarrassed to tell anyone I know about it, because they'd figure out who it was in a heartbeat, and I don't want to embarrass him. HELP!
-Spoke Too Soon
Anon -
Exactly what I told the writer above: be nice and don't try to be his girlfriend.
Learn from this. Telling a guy you like him at your age, even if he likes you back, is never recommended.
When you're around him, act like you never said anything.
- Bro Jo
OP- Thanks. I really needed this. :)
Sister Jo said to me the other day "all of those teen magazines telling girls 'how to tell him you like him' are dead wrong in their advice".
She agrees: say nothing.
Thought you should know.
- Bro Jo
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