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Monday, May 28, 2012

The Set-up Game

Dear Bro Jo,

In response to your article about Sisterhood at the I and the Y ("Putting 'Girl Power' to Work", October 3, 2011): how do we go about setting our roommates up on dates?

Who pays in this circumstance?

To be honest dating altogether confuses me.

How do i go about getting my roommates and friends up to this?

Not sure about set up . . .

- Name Withheld

Dear NW,

Ah! The "Set-up Game"!

Here's how it works:

You and your Sisters get together for a night of plotting and planning. You agree that you're collectively not getting the dates you want, either in quality, quantity or both.

Each girl makes a list of whom each of you wants to be asked out by. Specifics are best, but if you can't come up with any specific names, a number of dates is agreed upon.

Then you go to work talking to guys on behalf of each other. If your roommate wants to date Bob, then you spend time talking to Bob about her: what a great girl she is, how he'd be lucky to go out with her, and if needed you push him to ask her out. When he does she drops $5 in the pool.

When a girl gets sealed to a guy she was set up with, the girl that set her up gets the dough.

And you keep on going like that.

Because, let's face it, these guys need a lot of teaching when it comes to realizing how great all of you are, and even more help when it comes to asking you all out.

Have fun!

- Bro Jo


Anonymous said...

Lol! That's an awesome idea! I've got to remember that one for college. :)

Anonymous said...

How soon is to soon after a guy gets home from a mission to get a friend to set you up?
Does he need some time to adjust to being home before jumping into the dating scene?

Dave Johnston said...

In my opinion 72 hours to a week, depending on the guy.


- Bro Jo