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Friday, December 7, 2012

A Guy Asks About Temple Dates

Dear Bro Jo,

I heard from someone a while ago that it was a bad idea to go on temple dates with any girl before you're engaged or married.

I didn't think anything of it until recently when my girlfriend asked if we could go do baptisms together sometime.

I decided to start trying to do some research, but I haven't found any real good discussions, or teachings on the matter. I stumbled upon your site and was glad to see what you had to say.

I was wondering if you could perhaps shed more light on the matter by either directing me to a talk or a book that explains the idea more in depth or any quotes that you may have. It may very well be that it's only opinion based, but if you have any sources or other information I'd be very grateful if you could point me in the right direction.


- Can't Cache Me

P.S. I'm also very impressed and grateful for your site. It provides great advice and direction to many teenagers and young adults. Thank you for putting in the extra time and effort. Thank you for also getting Sister Joe's opinions as well. It's always nice to have a second point of view to see from, especially if it's someone that understands and can explain the female mindset.

Dear Cache,

ALL of my stuff is opinion based, though I hope none of it conflicts the Gospel or Prophetic teaching.

You're right, I've written on the topic of "Temple Dates" a few times . For me dating at the Temple violates the Spirit of why we're there, confuses the heart and the soul, and . . . frankly, is just plain weird.

You should be dating to get to know each other better, not to prove you have a Temple Recommend or to scope out how great your love interest looks in white.

Plus, and I think this is a significant point, you're not supposed to be TALKING in or about the Temple. At least minimally at most.

It's not like a movie date where the two of you can chat up whether or not you liked the film at dinner after. I'll bet someone of authority has spoken about it here and there . . . if you find anything, let me know.

- Bro Jo

 PS: Thanks! I do the best I can. I know about as much as I don't know about women. That's why I differ to Sister Jo so much.

1 comment:

Laura said...

THANK YOU for saying it violates the Spirit of why we're there. The most awkward temple experience I had was in the Rexburg Temple. I was waiting to do baptisms, and a guy and girl were sitting so close with their legs crossed together, and kept kissing. And whispering. It was beyond distracting.