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Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Prom Date Drama - Part 2

Dear Bro Jo,

Thanks for your super prompt response.

Accurate and blunt as usual, I love it.

As pathetically expected, the one seeking the help knew the answer all along and just needed the proper slap in the face to truly grasp it.

I'll swallow my pride and take the idiot comment, too haha.

I will definitely aim for the safety in numbers.

BTW, your opinion on dashboard time on the way to joining up with the group?

For this one, it'd be about 5 mins, but other events sometimes show a 20+ min distance between people's houses.

Oh and you have any clue at what's going on in her head?

I did think she liked me for a bit there, but not so sure anymore.

I have a hunch you'll prob tell me what I already know again.

Thanks,

Overcoming Temptation




Dear Overcoming,

My brother, I don't even have a clue what's going on in Sister Jo's head, and we've been together for nearly 25 years!

I'm sure she did like you, now it could be one of a billion things.

She doesn't want to get too close . . .

She likes someone else but still wants to go to prom . . .

She heard a rumor that you like someone else . . .

Today is green toenails day and she didn't know and painted hers purple . . . who knows?!?!?

Unless she tells you, you may never know.


If it means anything, you're not alone when it comes to bad prom experiences.

My own are, of course, are horrific (or funny, depending on your point of view).

***

This year one of my boys asked a girl to prom . . . gave her flowers, she hugged him, said she was excited to go, and then four hours later caught him at school to say she changed her mind and was going to go stag with a bunch of her friends.

Two weeks later she accepted a prom invitation from one of his buddies who never knew that my boy had asked her.

(The buddy had a lousy time, by the way, while my guy had a great time taking another wonderful girl who typically doesn't get asked to stuff like that because she flies under the radar. They went with a group of my son's friends. Good Group, Great Time.)

***

Another one of the Jo Boys asked a girl who said yes, and then two days later said yes when a different guy asked her.

So my boy "let her off the hook".

The next week he broke down and asked a girl that kept more-than-obviously-hinting (her mom actually called my son and said "so, when are you finally going to ask my daughter to prom?") that she wanted him to ask.

He did the whole "creative asking" thing, she was excited. They went with her group of friends and he had an :"okay" time. After he dropped her off she went to an "after prom" party and "got back together" with her ex-boyfriend.

She still hopes they can "be friends" though . . .

(Can you believe that?!?)

***


As for "Dashboard Time" (love the phrase, btw), the rule is that no girl gets picked up until there's at least two people already in the car, so you should be picking up one of your buddies first.

I know it's a hassle.

Sometimes the Jo Boys have to start the round of pickups an hour or so before the date.

But it's so much better than the alternative.

Consider this: what happens if the girl decides to tell a different version of events?

What if your innocent 20 minute drive gets turned into "he pulled over to the side of the road and started groping me"?

Your word against hers, and brother, when that happens the guy always loses.


A guy's got to be careful.

Have fun!

And Be Good.

- Bro Jo

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