Getting Him to Ask You Out When You're Not Good at Flirting

Dear Bro Jo,

Hi bro Jo :-)

I am a 20 year old gal living in Provo, Utah, attending BYU and a YSA ward.

I have had problems in the past with letting people get close to me.

My parents divorced when I was very young and I believe my fear of getting close to people stems from that.

However, I am getting much, much better about it.

Anyways, I met this fella in my ward and I think he's really great.

However, because he works at the MTC and is going to summer school full-time, I rarely see him around.

About the only time I see him every week is at sacrament meeting.

I want to get to know him better and I want to get him to ask me out, but I hardly see him.

How do I go about this without being awfully forward?

I feel like I'm always either TOO forward or not forward enough, and I can't ever seem to find the right balance.

And I stink at flirting, so that probably doesn't help much.

I appreciate your advice in advance. :)

Sincerely,

- An over-thinker




Dear Over,

If you're not willing to be at least a little forward, you're only hope is to have a friend talk to him on your behalf.

Don't dismiss it! It worked in elementary school; it will work now.

Just have a friend go up to him and tell him that she thinks you'd like to go out with him and get to know him better.

If he seems like he's interested then she encourages him to ask you out.

Simple.

Effective.

- Bro Jo