She Who Hesitates is Lonely

Dear Bro Jo,

I am a Young Single Adult.  Recently I have been going on dates and spending time with this guy.

This has been going on for a little over a month and we see each other 2-3 times a week.

Despite how much we do together there hasn't been any kind of discussion as to what on earth is going on.

I am just really confused because I am not sure if he sees us as just friends or something more.

We have never held hands or anything.

We have never even hugged each other but the way he talks makes it sound like there is something going on.
Which is why I just don't know what is going on.

So I guess that leads me to a couple of questions.

1. Is it wrong for me to ask what is going on? Or is that too pushy?

2. When it comes to things like hand holding whose job is that to initiate it?

3. Should I even bother bringing things up as there is only 1 week left before the semester ends and then he will go home for a month and a half? Is it better to just get it out of the way now?

Thanks,

- Confused and in the Friend Zone




Dear Zoner,

1. I think it’s okay to ask. Sure it’s a bit early to have the full on Determine The Relationship talk, but that doesn't mean you can have a "how do you think of me " chat. Very casual. "Hey, so we've been on a couple dates and you've yet to hold my hand or anything, so what gives? " If you're relaxed about it you won't be pushy.

2. This traditional Old Guy thinks boys should usually make the move, but I see nothing wrong with girls flirting, hinting, and sometimes coming right out and saying it: "its okay to hold my hand, you know ".

3. He who hesitates is lost; she who hesitates is lonely.

- Bro Jo