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Friday, June 5, 2015

Texting too much or not enough?

Dear Bro Jo,

I just came across your blog and it's fantastic!

Tons of great advice.

I had a quick question.

I'm a 22 year old woman and just had 'the talk' with this guy I've been dating for the past month.

Usually, I get a text from him in the morning and we text consistently throughout the day.

Today was different.

He hasn't really talked to me at all which is ok, I just didn't know what to think.

I'm probably being ridiculous.

What is your view on texting when you're in a new relationship?

Should I wait for him to text like I usually do?

I feel like I'm playing a game here.. Is that still necessary?

Or am I freaking out over nothing?

- Confused YSA

Dear YSA,

I'm not much of a texter . . . can't get my hands to move fast enough . . . (which is weird because I type about 100 wpm) . . .

And I think texting is bad thing to make the center piece of communication in a relationship.

It's just so impersonal . . .

In order, from best to worst, I list it this way:

1. Talking in person
2. Flirting across the room
3. Talking on the phone
4. Writing a hand-written letter
5. Postcard or other kind of card
6. Email
7. Video Conference Skype
8. Chatting on line (like Facebook or Google Chat)
9. Smoke Signals
10. Telepathy
11. Texting 

Actually, Sister Jo and I have a telepathy thing going . . . so I might bump Telepathy to somewhere in the top three . . . and it CAN be like flirting across the room . . .

To your other questions, given the little information I have, I think:

1. You're probably being a little ridiculous.
2. Yes, you should wait for him to text you first.
3. It IS a game, and it IS necessary. But games are much more fun and easier to understand when you TALK IN PERSON.
4. Yes, for now I think you're freaking out over nothing. 

Text less. Talk more.

It's much more revealing and intimate.

- Bro Jo

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