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Saturday, October 27, 2012

Cheese Gets a Stalker - Part 4

[Readers - Part 4 in a 5-part Special Saturday Series starting General Conference weekend.  Our friend "Cheese" has a guy in her life that really bothers her, but Mama Cheese and the Big Cheese seem to REALLY like this guy.  Is it possible that some guys just can't be repulsed?  - Bro Jo]

Dear Bro Jo,

He decided to come get lunch with me. And he is taking the long way. Thank heavens I can email on my phone. (I'm in the car with him right now.)  I didn't do my hair or my makeup I put on sweats and an old t shirt. He thinks I'm texting right now not emailing you. We are getting taco bell for the whole family, and my little sis and I went and sat at an entirely different table from him while we wait for the food. I have this friend who is on the BYU rugby team he is flying back here from Ohio tomorrow. I may ask him to help me. Tell the Jo boys thanks

- Cheese

Dear Cheese,

I would love to hear about some girl failures, I know I have had my share of them

I have news: wet hair, sweats and a t-shirt can be quite sexy, especially if a guy is already smitten. (Sister Jo I met at Disneyland where we both worked as Characters - I didn't see her with makeup on until I'd known her for over a year.)

Try using the "hypothetical" thing with Pete; "hey, I need your advice; I've got this friend who's parents keep pushing this boy on her, he's a nice guy but she doesn't like him in that way what do you think she should do?" - his answer could be interesting and enlightening.

For the record, I'm not sure I'm on board with the "involve another guy thing", it’s a little too deceitful and could lead you down the same path you're in now. The Jo Boys are right though, nothing is a bigger turn off than when the girl you like likes someone else; they really don't even date girls that one of their brothers has gone out with.

That, by the way, IS a killer technique. If you start asking Pete for his advice on other guys, that's sure to kill it. Treat him like a "big brother"; ask him what to about a guy you like at school, Rugby Guy, or any guy, really. I feel guilty telling you this, but if you firmly stick him in the Friend Zone, and make sure that he knows that's all he is to you, eventually he'll get it.

Just remember, once he's there, you may not be able to retrieve him should you choose to later.

Of course, you could also ask him what girls have done that he finds unattractive or "deal breakers" and do that stuff . . . just for my sanity and that of Big Cheese, don't do the really bad, damaging stuff.

I'll send you a list of some of the stuff girls did to me. Maybe you'll be able to laugh at my pain.

- Bro Jo

Dear Bro Jo,

Bro Jo, I talked to mom and dad and I let them read everything. They promised to back out of it and let me handle this one my way.

Thank you so much for the help :)


Dear Cheese,

Any time. Though I'm not certain I did anything.

Best to your family,

- Bro Jo

1 comment:

Amberlie said...

Is there going to be a part 5? I'm wondering how Peter is going to take all of this?