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Monday, October 22, 2012

Texting Too Much - PART 1

Dear Bro Jo,

I'm back!

This time - I hope - not with a silly question which I know the answer to.

So I could tell you a long or short version of this story. I'm gonna stick to short unless you need more details.

Basically there's this guy (non-member) who I have gotten into a habit of texting quite regularly.

He's nice and everything . . . but I'm thinking it may be bordering on inappropriate.

So I guess my question is - how can I politely decrease or eventually stop this?

Is it the right thing to do?

Oh and I'm seventeen.

And I'm thinking that maybe you might need some more background but we'll see how this goes.

- Trying To Text Tactfully

Dear Forty,

You say you're "thinking it may be bordering on inappropriate"; I say that's a prompting of the Spirit telling you that it most certainly is.

You don't mention what your prior relationship was with this guy, nor you discuss the nature of your texts, but to be honest neither really matters.

Stop making excuses, stop looking for reasons to do what you know is wrong.

You know you're supposed to stop, so stop.

Look, not all texting is evil.

It can be a quick and quiet way to deliver a message.

When Sister Jo and I are apart, like when she's at a football game and I'm at a orchestra concert, we'll text each other; "They're playing this song", "he just threw for a touchdown", stuff like that. I personally think it's . . . (dare I say?) . . . PATHETIC when people choose texting over talking.

You have the phone in your hand, they have the phone in their hand, there's no reason for you to be quiet . . . dial the darned number and actually TALK to each other.


The next time this guy texts you, if you want to talk to him, text him back THIS ONE LAST TIME, and say "I'm giving up texting; if you want you can give me a call".

After that, or if you don't want to talk to him, just stop responding to his texts.


He'll probably get mad, but that's his problem, not yours. Just because someone texts you, there's no law that says you have to respond.

- Bro Jo


Jordan said...

Thanks for having such an awesome blog Bro Jo! It might just be that I read your blog too often... but I feel like you already posted this? Or at least... this first part? Either that or I'm just imagining things.

Dave Johnston said...

Sometimes, Jordan, the emails start to look the same to me, too!

It's always possible that I failed to mark this one as "previously posted" in the database . . . certainly a mistake I've made before . . .

Thanks for keeping me on my toes!

Just incase, I'll post a "bonus column" tomorrow.

- Bro Jo