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Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Cheesy Wednesdays: Why are some boys rude and stupid?

Dear Bro Jo,

Why are some particular persons of the male gender so... Incredibly rude and stupid?

- Cheese Herself



Dear Cheesy,

Either: A) by choice, B) by curse, or C) lack of training.

Fortunately for you and all other girls, not all guys are like that and there's no requirement for you to spend any time with those that are.

- Bro Jo

17 comments:

Anonymous said...

Cheese,

LOL! For the same reasons that some particular persons of the female gender are so... incredibly rude and stupid. I'm assuming you've seen it much more in boys because you're a girl, so maybe you don't notice it much when girls do that. But like Bro Jo said, thankfully there are so many great guys around that you don't have to worry about those other ones. Sometimes you might have to open your horizons to guys that you either (1) don't find physically attractive, or (2) are older like in their mid 20's

Dave Johnston said...

Of course, Cheese, I don't recommend that you shop in the mid-20's aisle until you're . . . in your 20's.

- Bro Jo

Anonymous said...

I'm 25....thanks Bro Jo..... :/

Dave Johnston said...

Then, IMHO, teenagers are off limits. 20-30 is your general age range, bro. You might have to open your horizons...perhaps to 1) girls you don't find physically attractive, or 2) girls who are older, like in their late 20s

Bro Jo

Anonymous said...

Hello Bro Joe,
So, would you, at face value, be alright hearing about a 20-year-old girl dating a 25-year-old guy? Where's the line? It's just that 19 doesn't seem that far off from 20... You know what I mean?

Dave Johnston said...

I have my opinions but you have to draw your own lines.

I do personally think that 19 and 25 is generally too far apart, but I have less of a problem with 21 and 27. And I think 17 and 22 is a definite no.

See the difference?

I read about this a lot; click the link to the left side it says age differences and you'll find all of my columns on the issue.

Bro Jo

Zoe McDermott said...

Hi Brother Jo,I'm 18 and my other half is 22, he will be 23 soon, but he is in the church. Does it matter if you really like them and you feel the spirit guided you to eachother?

Dave Johnston said...

There are, of course, exceptions to every rule, Zoe.

But I don't believe we should live our lives on the exceptions.

And absolutely the Spirit matters.

But don't be fooled, 18 and 23 are far enough apart that there will be some issues . . . especially if you're still in High School and he's not.

However, if you look at what I've written, I don't see a problem with 19 and 23 . . . and I don't think I've advised against 18 and 22 either.

AND I see no necessary problems with 20 and 24! OR 20 and 25.

- Bro Jo

Dave Johnston said...

Oh . . . and do an Old Guy a favor: unless you're married, don't refer to each other as "the other half" . . . it's weird . . . and premature . . .

Heck, who am I kidding???

I hate that phrase when it's used by anyone younger than my grandparents.

- Bro Jo

Anonymous said...

How do you feel about interracial dating? If you had a daughter, would you be comfortable with her dating an Asian guy? A black guy? A Hispanic guy? You're pretty set on age differences and have expressed that often when asked but I don't see anything in terms of interracial dating.

zoe said...

Hi,
Thank you, I'm not in school anymore I am from England, but I didn't know if it was too big of a gap, because it was kind of the same when I wasn't in the church and it didn't work out, so I was thinking what would be diffrent this time.

Dave Johnston said...

That's a fair question.

I have two daughters and five sons. How someone looks is not important when it comes to whom my children date and marry. I suppose race, or more accurately ethnicity, is part of that...and it couldn't matter to me less.

I respect and appreciate different cultures, and I understand how coming from uncommon backgrounds, histories and family traditions can present special challenges in a relationship....but they're certainly not Deal Breakers.

In short...race doesn't matter to me at all...for my kids or someone else's.

Bro Jo

Dave Johnston said...

Zoe,

Age can be a good barometer of where people are in life, and that can be very important when it comes to building a successful relationship.

But it's not the only important thing to consider.

Bro Jo

Anonymous said...

I definitely agree with you on that one, Bro Jo!
I know some people who act as if interracial relationships are as challenging as inter-religious ones, but I never really got that. In my opinion, religion (unless you're non-practising, in which case you don't really belong to it anyway, IMHO) is necessarily a reflection of your personality, how you think, your major beliefs, etc. because you choose to be in a religion based on what you think.
However, race isn't necessarily a reflection of how you think - it could be, but not always. People in the same race/ethnicity could think completely differently, plus factors such as your upbringing (e.g. Which country) and adoption are also there.
So that was a long post, but something I feel rather strongly about, since due to my own circumstances I'm almost guaranteed to intermarry (racially, though not religiously) which actually I'm pretty excited about! I wonder which culture I'll get...
-C

Dave Johnston said...

C,

That sounds a touch racist . . . I mean, how does one "plan" to marry inter-racially?

Shouldn't you just date good people regardless of their background?

And then marry someone whom you think you'll both be good spouses for Time and All Eternity?

It just seems . . . forgive me . . . a little . . . racist . . . to "plan" on marrying someone based on their ethnicity . . . whatever that might be . . . and giving them "extra credit" (if you will) because they have a different background than you.

How can that be a goal?

I mean, I guess if you're living in a place where you're absolutely the only person with your heritage . . . I guess I could understand that you figure it's an inevitability . . .

I'm sure you meant well . . . but the comment reads poorly.


- Bro Jo

Anonymous said...

Bro Jo,
I never said "plan"! I said "almost guaranteed", "due to my own circumstances", NOT my planning or intentions.
I'm sorry if I didn't make it clear - I don't know where you got the idea that it was in my planning. And yes, I'm pretty much in tha situation - I'm a mix of three cultures, two of which come from my parents, and one of the country I was raised in. I am very much a part of all three. I have NEVER met the same mix in any boy my age, let alone one in the church. And I don't live in a small town.
So yes, I FIGURED I would intermarry. Not something I planned though, obviously!
-C

Dave Johnston said...

okay

- Bro Jo