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Friday, July 6, 2012

The Hesitant Boyfriend - Part 3

[ Readers - This is Part 3 of this series which began on Friday, June 22nd. How do you feel this situation turned out? Is it what you expected? What do you think will happen to this couple? Do you agree with me that it he "doesn't seem willing to follow" where she wants to go?   - Bro Jo ]



Dear Bro Jo,

Update: Something else he mentioned the other day, that maybe we should date other people got me thinking, and today he told me that he thinks he was inspired to say that.

I hadn't even thought of it as an option, and when I first read your response that you think we should break up, I completely dismissed it.

I'll be honest. I wanted to find a way for this to work without having to be without him.

I told him that we should take a break for a while and date other people and not see each other.

I think that would help us both to see how it's like to be on dates with other people because we both have no experience outside of each other.

But it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Once we realize that either we can't live without each other or we're better off without each other, we can decide what to do from there.

- Impatient



Dear Impatient,

Thank you for the update. I think it came before my last letter to you.

Perhaps you should look at this situation as though it's not as if you're leaving him, but that he's not willing to follow where it is you want to go.

I think you're absolutely right in your assessment. Perhaps his love for you will motivate and inspire him. Whatever the result, I wish eternal joy for both of you.

No one should ever be completely written out of our lives because they're struggling with addiction, but marrying someone who has not overcome their addiction is never a good idea.

We all have stuff to work on, improvements to make as we travel down this path of life with the goal of returning to live with our Heavenly Father. As we journey we should offer a helping hand to those that need it along the way. But like the rescue diver, in our attempts to help others we can't allow ourselves to be drowned.

Let us know what happens, would you?

God bless,

- Bro Jo

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