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Friday, July 13, 2012

When She's Still Hung Up on the Guy that's Coming Home

Dear Bro Jo,

Ok here is the situation:

I've been dating a girl who is waiting for a missionary and he comes home in about a month.

It's kind of a long distance relationship between us but we see each other for about a week every month.

She has told me that she would be able to spend her life with me.

But as the time gets shorter till he's home I can tell she's not sure what to do about the situation and for that matter I don't know what to do or say about it.

We both have told each other multiple times we love each other.

Any suggestions on what to do or say in this situation?

- Name Withheld

Dear NW,

Brother, as long as she's clinging to him she'll never be able to fully be with you. You need to find out where she stands. That means you need to come out and ask her. Does she need to wait to see how she feels about him, or is she ready to commit to you?

With only a month out, you may have to cut her loose and see which of you (if either) she picks. But it you really do love her, and you're ready to make an eternal commitment, then don't give up without a fight.

You want her to be sure, but you don't want that interpreted as you not caring how things turn out.

Hang in there, cowboy, this is either going to be the best or the worst.

Either way, you're going to learn some pretty important things pretty soon.

Let us know how it goes!

- Bro Jo

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