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Monday, July 16, 2012

Getting Married at BYU - (Dateless at BYU - Part 3)

[Readers - Do you remember the letter from "Dateless at BYU" that I published last March 19th? I published a followup last week, July 9th ("Heartbreak at BYU"). That second set of letters showed that 8 months of dating had ended in Heartbreak. Below is the comment she sent to me 8 months after that.

So now what do you think?

- Bro Jo]

Dear Bro Jo,

I was actually the one who wrote the original "Dateless at BYU" letter and the followup "Heartbroken at BYU".

I didn't go out of my comfort zone to feel better about myself. I don't need guys to feel good about myself.

I didn't want to lose out on something amazing because I was shy so I took your advice and talked to more guys. Talking to more guys led me to a relationship that ended up breaking my heart but I am so grateful for that experience because of who it taught me so much and helped me realize who I want to be . . . made me realize who I am.

It helped me see what I wanted in life and I started living towards that goal. I continued going out of my comfort zone and talking to guys and I have now found a wonderful man that I get to marry in the temple in two weeks. I was rejected a few times but it made me stronger for it and ready to meet my spouse.

Now I have met a wonderful man who I get to marry in the temple in two weeks. I am so grateful for all of my experiences as they have helped me be ready to meet my spouse.

- Getting Married at BYU

Dear Getting Married,

Good for you.

And congratulations!

All the best,

- Bro Jo

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