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Monday, November 2, 2015

At 16 How Does He Know a Particular Girl Better?

Dear Bro Jo,

Okay so I am not sure how this Dear Bro Jo thing works and stuff.

Do I get an email back as a reply?

Do I check Dear Bro Jo and hope my question appears?

I don't know.

But I have a question.

So there is this girl I just met on a pioneer trek. We didn't talk much, but I would like to get to know her better and become friends.

My mom told me that when I was in nursery we used to be good friends. But I don't remember nursery, it was quite a while ago.

And after nursery she moved to a different ward, so I haven't seen her since.

We are both 16 now.

So I was wondering what I should do to be better friends with her.

Also I am sort of a quiet person, I don't talk much.

Thank you,


Dear Anonymous,

Now you know!

I respond via email first; not all emails get published, and those that do often are published months, if not years, after my correspondence with the writer.

I think the Church gives us great opportunities to prepare for missions, including helping us learn how to overcome shyness and learning how to talk to others.

This won't surprise you, but I think a great way to prepare for a mission, where we CONSTANTLY meet new people and talk to them to get to know them better, is Casual Group Dating.

You're 16, future Elder, it's time to start going on Casual Group Dates!

Including this girl among those whom you choose to date will be a great way to get to know her better, AND dating other girls will help you learn how to communicate with all people better. 

Including this particular girl.

Have fun!

- Bro Jo

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