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Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Two Quick Questions

Dear Bro Jo,


I was just wondering if you think its okay to tell a teeny tiny fib to get a creeper stalker off my back?

'Cause I felt kinda bad about lying that I'd gotten a new phone, but mostly I'm just relieved he won't try to text me anymore.

And if he asks for my new number?

Should I just give him the nearest Pizza Hut's number?

- Curious

Dear Curious,

I think it's okay to kick a creeper stalker in the groin if that's what it takes to get them to go away.

So there!

But I will tell you this: when it comes to guys that like you that you don't like, lying almost never works.

Honesty, sometimes brutal honesty, is the only thing that works.

Frankly, C, I think it would be smarter to just block his number.


Then no texts and you don't have to lie

- Bro Jo

Dear Bro Jo,

Oh, I don't know if I can do brutal honesty!

I don't want to hurt anyone.

That would be awful.

Also, I've been thinking, and do you think it would be inappropriate to like a guy who is 20 when the girl is 17?

It's not me, or my situation, but when my friend gets back from his mission it could be and I just wanna avoid doing anything wrong... I just don't know.

The age difference isn't bad and I've known him forever, but I know you were like, "15 and 19 year olds can't be friends".

Well . . .  now that I think about the time line, I'll be 18 and off to college when he gets back.

So I guess that's different?

- Curious,

Dear Curious,

Being honest is only painful if you're mean.

Lying can be much more harmful.

There's nothing wrong with LIKING a 20-year old guy when you're 17, but dating?

That's a "no".

18 and 21?

A bit of a stretch.

Less so if, like you said, you're out of high school.

19 and 22?

No problem!

- Bro Jo

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