Wait or Date?

Dear Bro Jo,

I had a crush on a guy about one and a half years ago. We didn’t have much time to get to know each other well then he left on his mission. I told him I liked him before he left and he politely refused me...He's a quiet person that he didn’t talk to people a lot (sometimes didn’t talk at all) but he did talk to me sometimes. So I thought he had a feeling on me too...

Neither he nor I have ever dated anyone before, should I date with some other guys or should I wait for him to come back?? He's been on his mission for about one year now and I'm thinking a lot these days whether I should write to him or not. As I said before, he's a quiet guy that he didn’t even let people to have a farewell party for him, do you think he would like me to write to him or not? And I don’t know what I should write; would you please give me some suggestions if you think I should write to him?

Best Regards,
Waiting gal


Dear Waiting,

You should do both: Date other Guys AND Write the Missionary.

Missionaries LOVE letters (although many are not fond of Love Letters). Write him. Ask him about his mission, they people he’s met and the things he’s experienced.

(Did I ever tell you that Sister Jo and I wrote letters for several months before we ever dated? True Story. Well, kind of. We had one dinner together where I did all the eating and she did an excellent job of reeling me in – I count it as our first date, she does not. That was the last night I saw her until out next date nearly three months later)

Keep your letters from gushing about any romantic feelings you may have, but use them as a great way to get to know him better. Don’t be discouraged if he doesn’t write back right away.

And definitely date other people. No reason not to.

- Bro Jo